And they lived happily ever after.
Perhaps our favorite line in every fairy tale that we read.
After all, who doesn’t want to have a lasting relationship?
When you’ve found the one, I know that you’ll be more than willing to make things truly work out.
Allow me to share with you these 5 tips to help make your relationship last.
In order for a relationship to work, you guys must be on the same page. Don’t ever overlook the importance of reaching out and asking your partner about his/her needs and wants and allow yourself to share yours as well. Talk openly and honestly. Adjust accordingly there after based on your conversation. Allow yourself to give and receive the kind of love and affection you deserve.
Try new things. Or enjoy doing old ones. Explore and experience together. Never be too busy to be in love with that one person who changed your life. How can you support each other more as you get to know each other better while growing together? Keep that in mind.
Don’t let an argument make you forget the beautiful relationship that you have. Have enough time and space to reflect and understand the situation fully. Express your thoughts and apologize if needed. Forgive. Be more than willing to start all over again when you’re ready.
Don’t wait for any special occasion to show your love and affection. Make every single day special. Send sweet messages, surprise each other with random gifts. Hold hands. Give tight hugs. Make your partner feel special and remember all the reasons you fell in love with this person from the very beginning. Keep the fire burning.
I know that once you get in a relationship the assumption is that it has to be always about you both. But to be honest, that shouldn’t be the case. Allow yourself to have enough time and space and acknowledge your own needs outside the relationship. Become your own #bestmeever and allow your partner to do the same. Trust each other and know that by having that healthy space to grow individually as well, you become the best version of yourselves for each other.
I hope these will help you guys build that happy, stable, lasting relationship that you’ve always wanted.
Time to recreate your own fairy tale now.
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The other day, I woke up being told that I made it at #38 among the Top 100 Life Coach Website, Blogs and Influencers in 2021 globally.
My heart is beyond grateful and I am so honored to be included in this list.
So I got a lot of congratulations and comments telling me that I was already successful and that all my hard work is finally paying off.
And getting all those made me think hard: was I really successful?
If you would define success as being a 6-7 digit professional coach, having multiple best selling books and global features and interviews, numerous highly happy and successful clients, having a number of brand collaborations and paid workshops and talks left and right, while having a solid growing number of followers and supporters, then I guess I would say yes, I am successful based on those standards, solely based on facts and with my humility in tact.
However, coming from a space of honesty, I defined my own success this way:
Being able to have the time and means to pursue my passion and live my dreams.
Because at the end of the day, my life isn’t about what I can do, or what I have or what I have achieved.
It’s about how much I have allowed myself to just be.
And mind you, the entire journey wasn’t easy.
Yup, what you see now is just the tip of the ice berg of how a successful life coach can be like.
But what is not seen at the onset is how I had to spend a number of sleepless nights and days just as long, just to work on my craft to be able to deliver my key results consistently as I help others become their own #bestmeever .
1.) Build your credentials
Always be hungry to learn more about your craft. Explore multiple disciplines. Never be resistant to something unfamiliar. Be humble enough to start from scratch. As for me, even as a Global Master Coach, to this day, I still continue to study and get certified by reputable coaching institutions as I work on my rank promotion in the International Coach Federation. Never feel bad when you invest in yourself and your dreams. Oh and yes, I still have my own Master Level Coach as I mentor other coaches, even at present. Choose your mentor well and be willing to invest on them. My mindset: mistakes are too expensive for me and I can’t afford them so I would rather invest wisely on myself and my growth and on my mentor whom I have seen deliver the results I want.
2.) Strengthen your credibility
Ok, being good at what you do is one thing. Letting others know that you are is another. How much time have you spent in establishing yourself as an authority in your space? Take time to give high-value talks, write articles, post consistently, and most importantly, practice and ensure that you are able to deliver expected results from a professional perspective. Don’t just settle on having a certification or title: your credibility must be supported by your own body of work and the results which you have consistently (and successfully) given.
3.) Don’t ever make money as the basis of your practice
Always remember your why. Don’t ever make a client’s ability to pay as the basis of your performance as a coach. Whether it’s a paying client or a pro bono thing, always give your best. Don’t shortchange yourself and the client. The key here is to be able to hone your skills and test your own coaching programs time and again so that you would know if its doing its work or if you’re really hitting the right market. Treat everyone as a beautiful investment. After all, seeing someone else grow is such a rewarding experience so just make life coaching as a lifestyle so that it comes out naturally and not based on anything monetary. Oh, and client testimonials are priceless and referrals from them can open even beautiful doors for you in the long run.
4.) Never let rejections dishearten you
Fact: you can’t please everyone and not everyone is meant to be your coachee. And guess what? That’s ok. Take each and every NO as an opportunity to start fresh. Don’t ever take rejections too hard. It’s not always about you. In my case, trust me, when I was starting, I have gotten a lot. And in my current space, till now, I still do. But I’ve realized that it’s ok and I always try to learn from the experience and grow from it there after. Remember, if I hadn’t experienced all those rejections before while growing up, there will be no #bestmeever : no global coaching platform, no best selling books, no TED talks , no brand collaborations, no international podcast — and the list goes on.
5.) Be willing to take risks
Don’t let your fears get in the way of your dreams. So if you really want to make it as a life coach, embrace the uncomfortable. Don’t overthink opportunities given to you, instead, just go for them and make sure that you maximize each one along the way. Stop trying to fit in a mold and just allow yourself to grow as you are. Become that beautiful disruption that you are meant to be. That was what really worked for me: to be a Unicorn among the life coaches from all over the world. In your case, what should you allow yourself to be? Remember that authenticity can do wonders for you, big time. You are worth that risk.
So there, I hope that wherever you are in your journey as a life coach, these tips will help you become more successful in the process.
Thank you for being part of mine.
[/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column] [/et_pb_row] [/et_pb_section]Nowadays, with the pandemic, among others, times seem to be really challenging.
Ok, let me correct myself: times ARE challenging. Period.
I know that at some point, we all have experienced doubting ourselves and losing hope in the process as we become anxious about what tomorrow holds for us.
And I think that we have learned based on experience, having that kind of behavior wouldn’t allow us to thrive in our space.
Because truth be told, more than ever, we need to have a positive mindset as we remain optimistic about what lies ahead.
Nothing is permanent in this world. Same goes for whatever is bothering us now. So hold on to that fact that someday, all will be well. Having something to look forward to allows you to have a better perspective about life at present.
You can’t undo the past, even if you tried. But you can always work on your present and create the future that you want from scratch. Remember that what can still be will always be more beautiful than your what could have been.
Choose to see what went right. Big or small, celebrate your wins. You deserve to acknowledge yourself and your hard work. They will inspire you to do more in the process as you become your own #bestmeever.
Choose the company you keep. Remember, your immediate environment plays a big role in the way you think and react to circumstances in your life. So be mindful of the kind of people you allow in your space. Check on red flags every now and then. You’re not obliged to accommodate any form of negativity or toxic behavior at the end of the day.
At the end of the day, no matter how it went, there will always be something to be grateful for. Train your mind to look for those. That will help you realize how beautiful life still is amidst trying times.
There you have it. I hope these help you keep your hopes high as we journey together towards a brighter future ahead.
Here’s an interesting fact:
At times, what really makes a goal hard to achieve is not the lack of skills nor opportunities.
It’s the lack of self-confidence.
That feeling of not being worthy, not being good enough.
These are walls we built by ourselves.
They hold us back from becoming the person we are meant to be: our very own #bestmeever .
Let’s face it: it’s not that easy to be truly confident when we all have experienced a lot of down times in our lives.
It’s over and done with. So why hold on to whatever painful experience you’ve had up to this day? You have a choice to start all over again as you learn from what initially broke you so you can have your own breakthrough. You’re not defined by your past; you’re defined by the choices you make there after.
Somewhere along the way, you have succeeded in your own right. Celebrate those wins. If you’ve done it before, why worry about not being able to achieve the same now?
You’ve survived and made it this far. So why doubt yourself? Wear your battle scars proud. And give yourself that much-deserved pat on the back.
What normally freaks us out is the fact that we don’t have a plan to back us up as we pursue our goals, coming from a space of unfamiliarity. By carefully listing down all your options and specific steps on how you can reach your goals, you become more confident in the process knowing that somehow, you have it all figured out.
Be your own best fan. Tell yourself all the words you long to hear. Know that you are truly great within, you just have to consistently remember that, no matter what. The thing is: you’re actually the best person to remind yourself too.
There you go. I hope that these tips will enable you to level up your confidence so you can finally pursue your dreams with the greatest of ease.
Enjoy your journey as you break free confidently!
For some, work is life.
Like nine-to-five is dedicated solely to what pays the bills.
At times, it goes beyond that as well.
Longer work hours. No holidays.
More time with officemates. More time to build one’s career.
However, in the process of focusing too much on work for wanting to earn a living, we forget one important thing:
To live the life we have always wanted.
Take this time to read through this list of 5 things which I believe are far more important than work:
How have you been managing your stress lately? Have you had enough time to actually sit back, relax and pamper yourself? Remember, it’s very important to take care of your overall health, because at the end of the day, if it suffers, working won’t even be possible. Make sure to include exercise, healthy diet, meditation and other self-care routines in between to allow yourself to always be at the pink of health.
When the going gets tough, trust that your loved ones will never fire you. I doubt it if same goes at work. Haha! What I am just saying is, you also need to spend more time with people who truly matter to you because at the end of the day, long after work is over, they’re the ones by your side, no matter what happens. Working long hours can never compensate for missing out on very important family occasions, personal milestones and the like because those are priceless.
So yeah, cool, your work pays the bills and you get to reach the top of the food chain in your career ladder. However, beyond your success, are you really able to pursue what makes your heart fulfilled? Have you really given yourself time to pursue your passion or learn something new? Know that your own #bestmeever is not defined by your work alone.
Are you genuinely happy outside of what you do at work? Have you given yourself the permission to just be and experience the best things in life without feeling guilty about your work deadlines? Remember that it’s ok to put yourself as your top priority, simply because if you’re coming from a space of happiness, everything around you will be in alignment — your work included. Never deprive yourself from the kind of life you truly want and deserve.
Picture this, how would you like others to remember you? Someone who worked long hours or became a CEO of a company? Or someone who helped change their lives and inspired them to be their best? It’s all about allowing yourself to be relevant beyond the walls of your office by reaching out to others and making a difference in their lives. Know that you are never too busy to help and that allows your heart to come from a space of overflow. It helps to be surrounded with like minded people who can empower and inspire you from within.
I hope that you get to work on living the life you’ve always wanted.
Time in now.
Nobody’s perfect.
And that’s a fact.
But guess what?
It’s perfectly ok.
So stop beating yourself up for “flaws” which make you feel less of a person.
Because in, reality, they don’t.
Know that as you are, you are perfectly amazing.
If you’re still struggling with loving your imperfections, then allow me to share with you these 5 ways to allow you to embrace them fully.
Only you can see your true worth. So set your own standards. You don’t have to stress yourself fitting into someone else’s mould. Create your own. Your beauty makes you uniquely special, so don’t ever compare yourself with someone else. Just appreciate your own because by doing that, you’ll know that there’s so much to love about you.
2. Make your flaws inspiring
Somewhere out there, someone needs to hear your story of how you embraced your flaws and imperfections. Whether it’s a physical insecurity, a disability, a circumstance … these can be turned into powerful inspirations, only if you see the true purpose behind each. Come from that space.
3. Count your blessings
Your flaws shouldn’t define you and your happiness. Look around you. Inquire within. What else can you be grateful for? There’s more to life than just focusing on things that are “less than perfect.” Focus on what matters more instead: what gives you genuine joy, fulfillment and wholeness. You can always choose to work around your imperfections and see things in a different light.
4. Surround yourself with inspiring advocates
All over the world, there are other people like you who may have experienced the same thing but have chosen to rise above the situation and empower others instead. Choose to find (and be with) your role models and people who bring out the best in you. Self-Check: If they can see beyond your flaws, why can’t you?
5. Affirm yourself daily
Give yourself that much needed confidence boost by facing the mirror every single day and loving the person you’re seeing daily, genuinely. Empower yourself with positive words you need to hear that will allow you to be your authentic, unapologetic and grandest version of yourself, your own #bestmeever . Don’t wait for others to validate you because as you are, you can give yourself that much needed love, acceptance and understanding. And your own affirmation will always be more than enough.
I hope that now you can see how “FLAWsome” you are.
Time to give yourself a tight hug. And a whole lot of love.
Question: Are you genuinely happy?
Imagine yourself waking up every single day, with a smile on your face that lasts long after the sun has set.
That immensely light feeling that you are motivated to be your #bestmeever always and allow others to be inspired by your presence.
Truth be told, happiness is a state of mind. And it can be achieved by creating your very own happiness habits to ensure that you come from a space of joy always.
I have always been an advocate of mental health and wellness that is why practicing what I preach, I always incorporate these things in my daily routine to ensure that my own happiness is always at its peak.
Who do you surround yourself with? Are you inspired to grow to the fullest in your current circle? Or are they limiting your potentials? If I may be candid about it, choose people who are good for your heart. No need to suffer in silence. Give yourself the kind of company that you deserve.
2. Practice gratefulness randomly
Everywhere I go, I oftentimes find myself randomly thanking the heavens for all my blessings, big and small. It’s all about making that conscious effort to just take a step back and reflect about how beautiful life is in general, regardless of what happens around me. I also keep a gratitude journal where I list all the things I am thankful for at the end of the day. Counting your blessings can do great wonders for your heart, mind and soul.
3. Self-Care is a must
Knowing when to stop, when to pamper yourself and allowing yourself to just be is key to maximizing your own growth. Being kinder, a little more loving and considerate to yourself will allow you journey through life with less stress as you focus on what matters more: your own happiness along the way.
4. Pursuing your goals
Do something every single day that will take you closer to achieving your biggest dreams. Big or small, every step counts. Know that you have what it takes to reach your goals, all of which, you’re very much deserving of to begin with. Having something bigger and better to look forward to allows your heart to anticipate with joy.
5. Be present in the moment
Be 100% present wherever you are now, with whatever you do. Don’t let the noise of the outside world make you forget to savor the moment you are in, as you grow to the person you’re meant to be in your current space. Enjoy the process, always, in all ways.
There you go. I hope these habits of mine will allow your heart to smile wider in the coming days.
Stay happy and inspired guys.
Fact: We all want to become our own #bestmeever
The thing is though, it takes a whole lot of work, commitment, trust and love to journey within.
To heal from the past, accept the now and gain clarity of our biggest visions in life as we discover self-empowerment takes time (and effort, mind you).
In some cases though, it takes longer for others because of these things that prevent them from having a smooth journey towards their best.
Ok, your journey, is yours alone. It’s totally different from anyone else’s in this planet. So every time you compare (and contrast) your progress with that of others, you allow yourself to get distracted. In the end, no matter how your journey goes, know that it’s meant to teach you important lessons so you can own your best version eventually.
2. Stressing over the little things
No journey is perfect. And guess what? The little bumps along the way make each one even more exciting. So stop sweating over the small stuff. It’s a waste of time and energy. I mean details matter and all and it wouldn’t hurt to double check along the way. However, in the event that there are unforeseen circumstances where things don’t go as planned, if it’s not life changing, just take a deep breath and let go. Nothing is worth more than your inner peace.
3. Expectations
Never attach your own happiness to mere expectations. Instead of conditioning yourself that you will be happy when you achieve this and that, why not try to be happy in the now, with all things as is, as you are. There are so many things to be grateful and happy about at present so allow yourself to grow in harmony with the now.
4. Pleasing others too much
You are not every one’s servant at their beck and call so stop thinking and acting like one. Remember, you also have the obligation to take care of yourself and give yourself what is due. So start saying ‘NO’ to others so you can say ‘YES’ more to yourself and your growth. At the end of the day, even if you don’t get the nod of others, the best person to please will always be yourself. And that will always be more than enough.
5. Putting yourself last
Making yourself a priority is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself. There’s totally nothing wrong about considering your own needs and wants. Remember, taking care of yourself first will also allow you to take care of others more eventually. It has to start from you though as you give yourself the love and affection that you willingly give to others. How can you give what you don’t have? Self-empowerment comes first my dear.
I hope this list will help you catch yourself as you journey towards your best.
I look forward to seeing your own #bestmeever unfold soon.
Words, once said, can never be undone.
Yup, words are that powerful.
And during this time of the COVID 19 pandemic that the world is filled with so much uncertainty, we have to keep in mind to choose what we say.
The least we need right now is to trigger more fear, stress, hopelessness or sadness among those around us.
Empathy is key nowadays. We should give ourselves and others the chance to know and understand our current space so that we can move on and forward and eventually become our own #bestmeever ”
Not everyone is on the same page at times, admittedly.
Be mindful though that people have different perspectives – and we should just allow and respect that. Give others the same space you are giving yourself to grow and flourish, at their own pace.
Never pressure others to bounce back immediately if they’re not yet ready.
Allow me to share with you my list of things we should avoid saying to practice sensitivity. These are actually some which I heard people say to others who were already struggling in their space. I can’t help but put it here so that people will be more mindful.
1. “You’re over reacting.”
This is so not true given that each one has his/her own way of responding to a situation. Given the different spaces we are coming from and the different experiences that we have, we cannot say that one is just over reacting without really understanding everything.
Solution: So come from a space minus of judgement. Tell them instead:
“I hear you. Allow yourself to express your emotions and when you’re ready, let’s talk.”
2. “Don’t focus too much on your feelings.”
Never ever tell people to set aside their emotions. Remember, feelings influence our thoughts and actions. So by telling others to invalidate them, you are taking away their chance of properly processing the space they’re in.
Solution: Allow others to really acknowledge their feelings and understand fully where they are coming from. Tell them instead:
“Take a step back and allow yourself to feel everything. When you’re ready to share with me, I will be waiting. “
3. “I told you so.”
Now is not the best time to come from one’s ego and reminding others about what should have been done. Pointing out previous mistakes can trigger more negative emotions than do the other person well.
Solution: Focus on empowering the other person on what can still be done differently. Tell them instead:
“I see. So what can you do now to address that? What support do you need from me?”
4. “I pity you.”
This is not showing sympathy at all. It’s like you are highlighting how seemingly hopeless the other person’s situation is. Remember, others don’t need to hear what they already know – they need to be empowered to see beyond the space they’re in.
Solution: Cheer them up. Encourage them to see the silver lining. Assure them that they’re not alone. Tell them instead:
“Hey, what can be good about this? I got you. Know that you are supported and loved always.”
5. “That’s how life is.”
This is something on a personal note I don’t agree with. Life becomes what it is based on the choices you make. So don’t just justify everything by pointing fingers at the situation on hand.
Solution: Encourage others to take responsibility for themselves. Empower them to rise above. Tell them instead:
“I know you’re so much better than this and I see you thriving soon. What can you do to allow that to happen? How can I journey with you?”
A little empathy will go a long way.
Journey with that in mind, always.
We made it!
And that’s one thing to celebrate about to begin with.
Indeed, 2020 was a tough year.
And that’s an understatement.
But come to think of it, it taught us a lot of valuable lessons in order to thrive next year.
Allow me to share with you these 21 tips to help you become your own #bestmeever in 2021:
– I mean, 2020 was a tough year but hey, try to acknowledge the good it may have brought to your life, whether it’s about having more time for yourself and your loved ones or finally being able to start on your passion project…choose to see reasons to be grateful for amidst adversity.
2. Let go of what didn’t work out.
– Past is past. Work with what you have here and now. It’s a starting point, not a dead end.
3. Take time to reflect.
– Pausing is powerful. That small gaps in between can determine the great things ahead thereafter.
4. Plan what’s next for you.
– Time to commit to the “next you”. How different will it be? What needs to be done to make it a reality? Jot them down and plot your timelines accordingly.
5. Indulge in self-care regularly.
– Your health and overall wellness are your greatest wealth. Take care of them well.
6. Cut ties with toxic people.
– Sanitize your space, guilt-free. You deserve that. Besides, you can always find other people who would really feel like family.Just open your mind and heart to the possibility of first setting yourself free.
7. Find yourself a job that you like.
– Like, really, really like. Go for something that goes beyond being an answer to your bills. It gets more fulfilling that way and wouldn’t feel like work at all.
8. Travel more often if you can.
– Allow yourself to learn about a new place (and yourself too) in the process as you grow in unison with the world around you. You are not meant to just settle in one place — you have the whole world to discover until you find yourself and own your chosen space.
9. Focus on what you can control.
– Don’t sweat the stuff that are beyond your control. Hope and pray for the best as you focus on prioritizing and acting on those within your sphere of influence.
10. Allow yourself to fall in love again.
– Whether it’s with yourself or with someone else, allow yourself to experience the kind of love you want and deserve. Life (and love) goes on.
11. Commit to a healthier lifestyle.
– Diet. Exercise. Detox. De-stress.
12. Learn a new skill.
– Now that you have more time on hand to reflect on the things you really want, time to stack on your skill set once more. What can help you thrive while feeling genuinely happy from within? Learn that.
13. Enjoy more home cooked meals.
– Made with love. And healthier too. Best enjoyed with your loved ones.
14. Spend more time with family.
– Family first. Everything else follows.
15. Schedule a “Me Time” daily.
-In between your busy schedules, inject quiet moments to reflect or relax by doing what you love e.g. playing with your pet, watching Netflix, gardening etc. Allow yourself to just be.
16. Be firm when you say “NO”.
– By doing so, you say yes to yourself and your growth. That’s called self-respect.
17. Try something new once in a while.
– Allow yourself to be uncomfortable as you learn and experience something unfamiliar. That will allow you to grow in the process.
18. Modify your spending habits.
-Check on your finances. Acknowledge what needs work. Create a new strategy. And monitor your spending wisely. Money isn’t everything but hey, you still have to save for the rainy days.
19. Invest in yourself more.
– How can you grow more in your current space? What needs more attention in your life now? Focus on that and nurture it. You are worth the investment.
20. Affirm yourself daily.
– Be your own greatest fan. Say all the things you need to hear without waiting for others to agree. You only have to listen to your own voice.
21 . Make your dreams come true.
– Pursue what makes you feel happy, complete and fulfilled. Don’t be afraid to start all over again. Your dreams were planted in your mind and heart for a reason. Time to bring that reason to life.
I hope these tips will allow you to thrive in 2021.
Looking forward to seeing you have your best year ever yet!
Wishing everyone of you a happy, meaningful and prosperous year ahead!
