We can only make the most of it by embracing each and every moment for what it is and what it brings.
And that includes the twist and turns, the usual curve balls and humps along the way.
Remember, no one can ever control or predict life in general. So don’t stress yourself trying to make things go your way always.
Because yes, that’s not exactly 100% possible.
However, it’s not easy admittedly to take that to heart always.
Most of the time, our own expectations (alongside those of others) get in the way.
Which eventually make us hate ourselves unnecessarily as we try so hard to figure things out by ourselves, in our terms.
We begin to question everything and everyone, including ourselves about the reasons why things are happening as they are.
Yep, change is inevitable. And usually, things get so chaotic before everything falls into place. Moving on or levelling up was never an easy task and the uncomfortable situation that you’re in right now is actually telling you that you’re embarking on either journey mentioned earlier.
2. You’re not yet ready
Greatness takes time. So allow yourself to fail forward. To commit mistakes. To experience hardships. Not getting what you want initially, whether it’s your dream job, a relationship you want or the recognition you aspire — is actually telling you to keep going as you keep growing. Try harder. Do better. Make room for improvements. Trust me, someday, your preparations will pay off.
3. You need to learn an important lesson
Any experience, good or bad, teaches us an important lesson we can use as we move forward in life. You are given challenging situations you can learn from so you can journey towards becoming your own #bestmeever . Please take note that if you’re experiencing the same stressful event over and over again and you noticed that it’s actually becoming harder and harder in the process, treat it as God’s (or the Universe’s) way of knocking some sense (and a whole lot of learning) into you.
4. You’re being protected
This is perhaps the trickiest one to spot. But it’s a real silver lining, if I may say. Life has its own way of saving you from toxic relationships, wrong decisions or merely settling. You just have to trust the process. Breaking up and letting go may be painful at first but what if staying was far worse? Think about that.
5. Better things are coming
Things have to fall apart to make room for better ones to come into place. Trust the process. Your space now might suck big time but know that it’s only temporary. Keep the faith. Keep moving forward. Better days ahead. Hang on.
And so bad when you fumble and fuck things up.
I know. It really sucks when you’re wrong.
But hey, committing mistakes is not a sign of failure.
It’s a beautiful sign that you’re actually trying to improve yourself as you grow more.
However, we cannot discount the fact that at times, it’s quite hard to admit that we’re wrong.
Know that this does not only come from your ego, or you wanting to get desired results faster.
It may also stem from wanting to prove yourself to others, and even to yourself.
And of course, there’s the fear of judgment that goes with it.
Regardless of your reasons, know that you have a choice on how to deal with your mistakes.
1.) Accept with full humility
Fact: You can’t be right all the time. You don’t even have to be. So swallow your pride and come from a space of humility and openness and accept that you’re at fault. Remember that you can only resolve issues that you acknowledge and recognizing your mistakes is the first step in doing so. Admitting your mistakes does not make you less of a person; it actually makes you more human.
2.) Stop beating yourself up
You can’t make things right by hurting yourself continuously. No amount of harsh words or harmful actions towards yourself can undo what’s been done. So instead of beating yourself up, empower yourself to rise above the challenges. Remember to forgive yourself in the process.
3.) Take note of the lessons
Mistakes allow us to learn which in turn help us grow. Reflect on the situation and ask yourself what is it teaching you? Allow those lessons to become anchors in your next journey as you become your own #bestmeever.
4.) Come up with a solution under your control or influence
Make the most of the opportunity to make up for your mistake by thinking of ways you can improve the situation or redeem yourself. Focus only on what you can control and just do your best whatever solutions you may come up with.
5.) Ask for help
You don’t have to deal with your mistakes by yourself. Seek support or mentorship from people whom you think can help you fully as you try to start all over again on a clean slate. There will always be someone out there who will be willing to lend a helping hand, only if you’re humble enough to ask.