Keep living.
This quote from the movie “A Man Called Otto” really touched my heart in a different way.
Ok so if you haven’t seen this life changing film yet starring Tom Hanks, then this is your sign to finally do so. It’s basically a film about moving on and forward after a traumatic event.
I don’t want to preempt anything else except that powerful line there from that film because you deserve to enjoy the movie by yourself to fully appreciate the plot and the life lessons in between.
To be candid about it, I felt that it was something really serendipitous as I found this film while onboard my flight back to Manila.
Very much in alignment for my theme this year which is all about transformation.
You see, I made myself a promise that upon returning from the holidays, I will work on myself once more, both personally and professionally because I believe that by allowing myself to grow and to change, I inspire others to do the same.
Change can be both exciting and scary at the same time. However, by embracing the unknown and uncomfortable fully, we allow ourselves to grow into the person that we are meant to be.
And that means being able to push forward, no matter how hard times may be as you focus on what you really want for yourself, coming from a space of honesty and vulnerability.
Easier said than done I know. However, it’s very much possible. You just have to be mentally resilient as you work on yourself and manage your emotions so you don’t fall into the trap of spiraling down as you become overwhelmed by things happening around you and within you.
1.) When someone you love dies
I know it hurts. So much. Whether it’s a member of your family, a friend or your significant other, the loss can be so overwhelming. The key here is to take time to grieve and allow yourself to sit comfortably with your emotions so you can process them better. However, it is also very important to know that it’s only their physical form that died; the beautiful memories you have created will continue to live on for as long as you keep them close to your heart. Take your time to heal and do what’s best for you as you come into terms with what is here and now. In the process of doing so, keep living. Your departed loved ones would have wanted you to do just that because know that wherever they may be now, they will always be a part of you and they would want to see you go on with your life happily eventually.
2.) When you experience failure
Losing can sometimes feel it’s the end of the world specially if you’ve already given your all and done your best. Cheer up. It shouldn’t be. Keep living. Think about it this way: it’s a reminder that there’s still room for improvement or something better is in store for you. Never doubt yourself and your capabilities. You will always be more than enough. Let the dust settle first and then pick yourself up and start all over again. Don’t stop until your proud. Because someday, I am quite sure, you will be if you only commit to moving on and forward from that painful loss.
3.) When you experience a break up
Fact: it’s very difficult to move on from a relationship that ended when you have gotten used to being with that other person whom you thought you will share the rest of your life with. However, please take to heart that it had to happen for a reason. Whether it’s about you finally realizing your worth and what you truly deserve or perhaps for you to realize what you have been neglecting for the longest time, embrace the lessons that go with it as you keep living. Not everyone has to play a part in your story but it doesn’t mean that you won’t have your own happily ever after eventually. Trust the process and your journey towards finding the love that’s meant to be.
4.) When you experience delays
Waiting can be such an agonizing experience. I mean, who wants to bask in uncertainty right? However, it doesn’t mean that as you wait for something to come to fruition, your life stops with it. Keep living. Make the most of the time you have exploring other options while improving yourself along the way. Stressing over the wait won’t hasten the process anyway so might as well focus on just being productive right? Trust me, your patience will pay off eventually.
5.) When you have reached a certain level of success
Being on cloud nine is such a wonderful feeling don’t you think? I mean who doesn’t want to experience that different high when you reach your goals? Don’t get me wrong, it’s ok to celebrate. However, it is also important to note to never let it get into your head. Keep living. Stay grounded. Know that everything is temporary. Enjoy while it’s there and celebrate yourself but never lose track of what truly matters most: yourself, your wellbeing and the beautiful relationships you kept that helped you achieve that success.
By this time I know you finally got my point across.
Never make life, whatever happens to you along the way, make you forget how amazing it is and what beautiful things still lie ahead for you.
Because like I always say,
Life goes on. So can you.
Keep living.
Time passed by so quickly, don’t you think?
A few days ago we were just opening our Christmas gifts, and this time around probably as you read this, you’re preparing a bunch of fireworks to be used when the clock strikes 12.
Well, that’s how life is. Something that we must take to heart always as we make each and every moment meaningful and memorable.
Speaking of meaningful and memorable, how was your 2023 like?
I want you to take this time to reflect and come from a space of honesty and vulnerability, how was your year like?
What did you struggle about? What were the highs and lows? What changed you?
Know that everything happens for a reason, and you, reading this now, are exactly where you’re meant to be.
Ok, you can breathe now. Yes, it’s ok.
But before we proceed, take this time to congratulate yourself. Whatever you’ve been through, whatever you’re going through as of the moment, know that you made it till today and that’s such an achievement. You’re a fighter. A survivor. A winner. Good job!
It doesn’t end though as the year that was comes to a close.
It’s only the beginning of something new, and something even better for you perhaps.
Any experience, good or bad, teaches you a valuable lesson. Looking back, what did life want to teach you with everything that happened to you? Was it about setting boundaries? Choosing the people you surround yourself with? Moving on? Take those lessons to heart and know that each one will come in handy as you welcome the new year so that you don’t commit the same mistakes again. Remember: life can be such a strict teacher and you will experience the same painful experiences if you don’t learn from them over and over again. So don’t even go that way for next year. Haha!
2. What do I really want to achieve this year?
Emphasis on the word “really”. Being true to yourself, what’s the new milestone that you’re looking at? Have a clear vision of what you really want to achieve so you can anchor your plans on it solidly. Make sure that it’s totally meaningful and relevant to you so that it allows you to live your purpose accordingly. Don’t have a goal for the sake of having one. Choose what really resonates within.
3. What needs to change for me to achieve this?
A new and bigger goal requires not only a change in your action plans but also a change in your mindset and emotional state. This new journey requires a different version of you so think about this: what kind of person do you need to become to be able to achieve your goals accordingly? What mindset, behaviors, feelings and action plans do you need to modify to allow everything to fall into place seamlessly in your journey? Change is inevitable so do away with resistance and embrace the beauty of what may be unfamiliar and uncomfortable at first. Best if you can list them all down in your journal so you have a visual guide moving forward.
4. What kind of support do I honestly need?
Hear me out on this: there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. You’re only human. It doesn’t make you weak or less capable. It actually shows how strong and humble you are to recognize your own needs as you journey towards your best. So best to inquire within now: who or what can help you in your journey? Do you need a mentor? A coach? New business opportunity? Skills training? Choose what you feel is best for you and don’t be afraid to seek others for support if you know they can do wonders for you. Always remember though to express your gratitude and respect before, during and after you get their support because the relationships that you keep matter.
5. What should be my overall theme for this year?
Take time to imagine this: what will be your overall mantra for next year? Is it all about expansion? Breaking barriers? Transformation? Choose what’s best for you and how you want your 2024 narrative to become. This helps you align your actions accordingly to your overall theme by asking yourself each time you make a crucial decision: how will this contribute to (express your theme)? Knowing the impact of your actions will help you come up with sound decisions not merely based on impulse or heightened emotions. Just to share, my 2023 theme was all about expansion and it allowed me to expand my practice globally as I spoke in international conferences and won global awards, which were part of my goals for this year. For 2024, my overall theme is transformation, as I allow myself to evolve into a new version of my own #bestmeever .
There you go. I hope these questions can help guide you as you welcome this coming year with a bunch of positivity and possibilities.
Always remember, at the end of the day, no matter what the year has in store for all of us,
life goes on.
And so can we.
Happy New Year everyone!
Cheers to the best one yet!
Christmas is just around the corner.
I hope you’re just as excited as I am.
I mean, setting aside the heavy traffic and the crazy yuletide rush, I have always looked forward to celebrating Christmas wherever I am in this world.
There’s something about the entire feel of this festive season that brings about unexplainable joy and peace at the same time.
And no, I am not trying to invalidate the feelings of anyone reading this because truth be told, sometimes because life happened, we feel anxious, worried and down during the holidays. Holiday blues are quite normal so stop beating yourself up and know that whatever you’re going through now and feeling as of the moment will eventually will come to pass. Just trust yourself and the process along the way.
While you’re at it, take this time to reward yourself for making it through the year. Yes, you deserve that gift you’ve always wanted for yourself. Whether it’s that new gadget you’ve had your eye on for the longest time, that extended vacation leave or getting the next stamp on your passport, don’t feel guilty for giving yourself what is due, for as long as you’re willing to take responsibility for your actions. Don’t let anything or anyone make you feel less deserving of whatever your heart desires.You only live once so take this time to celebrate yourself during the holidays.
However, amidst the festivities, one thing that you shouldn’t stress about are the gifts you can give to others. Do away with the notion that Christmas can be so expensive for everyone and that gifts determine the value you put on a certain relationship. Seriously, they don’t. It’s not how lavish your gifts are; it’s how meaningful they are and how relevant they become to a person long after the holidays are over and they begin their new chapter.
I always believed that no one is too busy to create meaningful relationships and beautiful memories. Make use of this holiday season to nurture your relationships by spending time with people closest to your heart. It’s not how long you spend time with each but rather how you maximize your time spent together that matters most. Visit a long time friend, call a relative overseas, host a lunch or dinner for your family. Remember, you’ll never know how many holidays you can still spend together in the future so make the most of the one you have now. Time is the most precious gift you can give to others (and the one you can give to yourself too) so don’t hold back on the chance to make their Christmas happier than usual with your presence.
2. Empathy
Whether someone close to you or a total stranger, they deserve your empathy. Remember that everyone has a different journey and to be able to fully understand them, you must try to walk in their shoes to see the real value of their experiences. So now, as things go crazy in between due to the holiday rush, practicing kindness and understanding towards people working overtime, or those asking for help whether loudly or silently, or those who are not in their festive holiday mood, goes a long way.
3. Help
You are never too weak, to helpless or too insignificant to help another person in need. Doing volunteer work or simply lending your time, effort and resources to help others can make a big difference during the holidays, not only for them, but for yourself as well, as you gain a most rewarding, highly fulfilling experience. Know that whatever you choose to give out this Christmas, for as long as your intentions are clear, they will return to you tenfold.
4. Hope
Somewhere out there, someone looks up to you as an inspiration. Be that shining light of hope for others by sharing your stories that can inspire them to be their own #bestmeever . Never underestimate the power of your words, impact and influence. Use them to change the lives of others for the better as you share your own wisdom lifted from your real-life experiences that are definitely worth sharing
5. Growth
Give a gift that lasts a last time and grows in value. Devote your time to teaching others new skills that can help them thrive better in life. Whether it’s all about helping them set up their own business, teaching them how to have an abundant mindset through journaling or equipping them with coaching skills, know that these will greatly impact the way they go through life positively in the long run. Sharing is caring. And know that each time you teach, you grow as well.
I hope that you get to share these gifts with people around you, whether physically or virtually.
By doing so, you not only make their Christmas happier and more meaningful, you also make yours even more special.
It’s the season of giving. And experiencing the beauty in receiving.
Don’t miss out on this.
Merry Christmas everyone.
Blessing in disguise.
Sounds familiar? I bet.
Much like I did, you probably grew up hearing this when things go wrong initially and then something better comes, making every chaos that has happened seemingly worth it.
And almost always, it’s true right?
So through the years, I think I have mustered the art of looking for silver linings even before Catriona Gray made it trending in 2018 during Miss Universe. Haha!
Seriously though, I have come into terms with the fact that no amount of worrying, anxiety and anger can resolve our concerns on hand, whatever they may be. After all, change is inevitable and transitioning in life need not be a terrifying experience.
However, admittedly, that’s easier said and done. Going head on with all the curve balls life throws at you can be such a stressful experience. It requires a whole lot of commitment, faith and love for yourself — sometimes harder to give to ourselves during difficult days. Chill, it’s ok. We’re only human.
The key here though is to take time to embrace the seemingly overwhelming situation as is, without panicking or resisting it, to fully understand its value.
Take this time to inquire within and recall any unfortunate event you may have experienced recently that caused you so much stress and anxiety.
This time around though, do this:
Breathe. Release. Reflect. Recalibrate. Repeat.
That 5-second gap. That beautiful pause allowed you to ground yourself and shift perspective. Never underestimate the power of staying still.
A cancelled booking. A moved media guesting. A rescheduled meeting. And the list goes on. Oftentimes we look at what opportunity we lost that we forget that we have bigger opportunities on hand that we have yet to maximize. I have always believed that if one thing is meant to be, it will be. So see this as a form of redirection towards a new opportunity: what do you have on hand that you must focus on? Resting perhaps? Preparing more? Entertaining another opportunity that you set aside before? Do away with the resentment and regrets and you will eventually find out the purpose of it. In my case, when an appointment gets cancelled, I see it as an opportunity for me to practice self-care always. Whether I get my facial, a massage or just enjoy my iced coffee in my favorite space, I still enjoy the moment just as much while remembering that it’s actually a preparation for something far greater.
2. A failed relationship
Lost a dear friend? Had a bad break up? It might seem so painful now but know that eventually, it will come to pass. Failed relationships teach you beautiful lessons about self-love, boundaries and self-worth. Embrace those fully as you move on and forward towards your next chapter, not coming from scratch but coming from experience, while knowing what’s best for you and what you truly want and deserve in a relationship, whatever kind it may be. This year, I lost a friend whom I initially thought was worth keeping because I have known this person for quite some time now. However, reflecting on the kind of relationship we had before, it made me realize how I was taken for granted and how many times my boundaries were crossed. Now, I am very much at peace with cutting ties with that person because I allowed myself to meet and be with new people who truly value me as a person. One of the best decisions ever to make room for people who genuinely deserve to share spaces with me.
3. A failure
Lost a competition? Did not get that promotion? Rejected application? It’s ok. It’s not the end of the world. Take it as a sign that there’s still room for improvement. You don’t have to nail everything immediately after a single try. Take your time. Work on yourself. Figure out what you really want. And be great at it. Let your results do the talking for you. I remember being shortlisted for an international award this year but ended up not being part of the winner’s circle. At first I was heartbroken but then I realized maybe it wasn’t really for me at this point in time. I remember focusing all my efforts into improving myself and my craft and lo and behold, my hard work did pay off. Yes, another award, took its place. But the best reward: seeing myself grow in the process, with or without any award at stake. Just my commitment to myself as I become my own #bestmeever .
4. Getting sick
Ok, don’t get me wrong: I am definitely not wishing this on anybody. What I am saying is that sometimes we get sick because we need to be reminded that we also have to take care of our own needs and wants as we realize what really matters in the long run. When I got sick before and totally bed ridden for two weeks due to over fatigue because I was totally gungho at work, it’s when I realized the importance of my health and the people who truly value me beyond our working relationship. It was such an eye opener that after I healed (thank God or else I wouldn’t be writing this as of this moment), the first thing I did was schedule mandatory work cut offs, vacation leaves and choose the people who I surround myself with, making sure that they genuinely look after my overall wellbeing. By living life fully each day and not letting work define how I should live — I have never been this happy.
5. Feeling stuck or lost
It’s not easy finding yourself at the crossroads of your life. Well to be candid about it, anything that’s unfamiliar can be so uncomfortable to begin with. The key here is to embrace the space you’re in and see it as an opportunity to finally go for what you want. Have you been stopping yourself for the longest time? Are you secretly wishing for something new in your life? Want to reinvent yourself? This seemingly dark space allows you to fulfill whatever it is you desire . It’s a matter of being clear with what you really want and need as of the moment that will make you feel genuinely happy, complete and fulfilled. I remember hitting a road block during my mid-30s when I no longer feel inspired by my work as an advertising and marketing executive after 15 years. Feeling lost and confused, I allowed myself to explore: learn a new skill, teach antigravity yoga, teach in graduate school among others which eventually led me to discovering my calling: life coaching. Looking back, that period of confusion redirected me to where I am meant to be. And I am, to this day, beyond grateful.
I hope the next time you encounter any of these, you will have a different take on them as you see the real blessings underneath.
Remember: everything happens for a reason, including you, reading this now because maybe, just maybe, you will uncover a new blessing in disguise soon.
I am beyond excited for you. Keep going. Keep growing.
Never too late to start a new adventure and make a dream come true.
My mantra ever since.
This is actually coming from my own experience. I never did let my age get in the way of my dreams.
Imagine: transitioning careers at age 36. Starting from scratch. Experiencing rejections time and again because I was a newbie in the coaching practice back then. My 15 solid years of experience in advertising and marketing did not really matter to my prospects then in search of a professional coach for them.
Yes, it was a very humbling, frustrating and life-changing experience.
But I am glad I pushed through.
Because if I let the opinions of others, the rejections and all the challenges that came my way back then, I wouldn’t be my own #bestmeever now: a multi-awarded global master coach with international best selling books and viral thought leadership articles to match.
I say all of these not to brag but to celebrate the wonderful journey it has been and how beautiful transitions can be if you willingly embrace it.
Ok, just to be clear: life transitions don’t just pertain to your new chosen career. It can also mean changing relationships, pursuing a different passion, or exploring an unfamiliar aspect of yourself.
And it can happen at any age, not necessarily when your hair turns gray. The good thing about it though is that: know that it’s ok.
Finding yourself at the crossroads of your life is normal. It means you’re actually preparing yourself to grow even more so stop beating yourself up. Transitioning does not mean you’re falling behind; it actually means you’re finally ready to take that first step to moving forward and becoming the person you’re meant to be: your own #bestmeever .
Mind you though: transitioning is never easy. I mean seriously, I don’t know anyone who finds uncertainty and unfamiliarity as something joyful. Haha! Kidding aside though, more than just wanting it for yourself, changing the space you’re in requires you to be fully committed and to do the work needed, no matter what.
Fear limits you and your dreams and giving in to it makes you settle for what you truly deserve. So it’s best to reflect on this question, coming from a space of courage and vulnerability instead so that you may finally identify what you truly want best. Make sure to make it as specific as possible e.g. I want to be happy (like how? what’s your space like? what will be the basis?) so that you have a clear vision of what you aspire to be.
2. Why do I want that transition for myself?
Remembering your own “why” grounds you and helps you through the darkest days. Be really honest about the value of your decision so that you get to hold on to your reasons along the way as you turn your “why” to “why not”? Acknowledge how transitioning will make you feel and how it will help you live your purpose, whatever it may be.
3. What’s stopping me from moving forward with the transition I want for myself?
Fear. Finances. Responsibilities. Unworthiness. Health. Time. Space. All these and more. The goal here is to identify the things holding you back so you can process them accordingly based on what you can control and do away with those that you can’t. At the end of the day, the only thing that can really stop you is yourself, because everything else has a solution, one way or another. Remember: if you really want something, nothing can stand in your way.
4. How committed am I to my transition?
It’s a life-changing decision you have to make for yourself so you have to be 100% in. No halfway thoughts. There will be good days and bad days and you must be willing to embrace both equally. At the end of the day, know that i’ll be worth it.
5. How can I go about my desired transition?
Planning is key. You don’t just go into a new battle without carefully considering your options and the next steps that you should take. Write down your course of action, taking into consideration the step by step process you can go about to achieve your desired results: what do you need to do? who can help you? when? just some of the questions to guide you towards creating your road map to the new you.
I hope these questions can help prepare you for your upcoming transition, whatever that may look like for you.
Remember this always: You are just one decision away from your best life. Make it count.
Grow happily, Unicorn.
Never hide.
– Rayban
One of the most memorable advertising campaigns I have ever worked on when I was still doing marketing and advertising for a living.
Who would have known years later, the said tagline will still ring true?
If you have been following me on social media or watching me go on-air for quite sometime now, you know how much I advocate for authenticity. I have always believed that it has always been one of my superpowers (alongside vulnerability, integrity and credibility) that allowed me to take up space in the coaching industry.
Part of being authentic is being able to love yourself whole and embrace yourself fully, flaws included. It’s all about recognizing who and what you are fully, and being comfortable with it.
It takes a whole lot of self-awareness, self-love and mental toughness and emotional mastery to be able to do that. Quite a lot of work, but definitely worth it.
Imagine: living a life that allows you to just let yourself be, without fear of judgments nor worries about being caught off guard. I know. Very happy and stress-free.
The freedom that goes with being able to embrace yourself as you are fully can do wonders to your overall wellness and wellbeing, as it allows you to navigate through life in your own terms, take up space as you are, at your own pace while continuously working on yourself and your growth.
Enjoying that freedom requires you though to come into terms with things, people, and situations that make you cringe and want to hide in the process. Consider those as your own deep, dark secrets that you hold on to just to look good or be worthy in the eyes of others.
Mind you though: that’s your ego talking. Using a megaphone to be precise. Haha!
Kidding aside, setting yourself free from the clutches of those seemingly uncomfortable details that surround your identity can help you journey towards your own #bestmeever .
I always liked this quote: ” If you were born poor, that’s not your fault. If you remain poor all through out your life, that’s your choice.” Can’t agree more. While you might not have the most amazing starting point, know that by taking pride on your humble beginnings, you get to inspire others to do the same and embark on that powerful journey to change their lives. Your past shouldn’t define you. How you take responsibility for it and use it as a tool to initiate the changes you want in your life, does.
2. Your failures and mistakes
In case you’ve forgotten: you are only human. So it’s ok to commit mistakes and fail. It means that you are trying. What is not ok is when you let those shortcomings overwhelm you and negate your perception towards yourself. Be proud of your battle scars and learn from them. Because for all you know, some day, your journey will be someone else’s survival guide. And that makes everything worth it.
3. Your present struggles
Struggling as of the moment does not make you less worthy, less respectable or less capable of having the life you’ve always wanted for yourself. Be brave enough to show your struggles and own them. Having things easy may be a good start for some; having to endure difficult times and allowing yourself to rise above them makes you beyond inspiring as you strive to do (and be ) better. It’ll all be worth it in the end.
4. Your achievements
If you worked hard for it, don’t be afraid to flaunt it. Never give in to the notion that when you post about your success, it’s already bragging. Because truth be told, it’s not. Say goodbye to success shaming. Remember, for as long as your intentions are clear and pure, you have every right to celebrate yourself and your win. How others see that is based on their own pains and projections; how you see it is based on your worth. And yes, you are very much deserving to acknowledge yourself and your wins.
5. Your Self
There you go. Bullseye! Haha! So when was the last time you felt really proud of yourself? Have you acknowledged how far you’ve gone and what you’ve become in the process? You don’t have to wait until you reach your biggest goals to be able to celebrate yourself and your growth. Know that as you are, you are amazing so give yourself more credit. You deserve to take centerstage, regardless of your race, gender, status, position, health, looks or whatever other aspects that make you feel less of a person. They don’t matter. You do.
I hope this blog post of mine allows you to toughen up and be brave enough to just let yourself be.
Time to live loud and proud, Unicorn.
Own your story.
Question: what do you get from stressing over things, in general?
Answer: None.
So why do it time and again?
Beats me. Haha!
But seriously: do you find yourself so often worrying about alot of things that you feel so overwhelmed, unhappy and lost?
This is because you are holding on to a lot of things (and thoughts) that are weighing you down and making you feel that you need to resolve them all at the same time or find a way to escape.
Truth be told though: you don’t have to.
It’s basically the pressure from everyone else around you to conform with the norm and the extreme pressure you put on yourself to be in control always. Quite unhealthy, if I may say, in so many ways: physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, socially...and the list goes on, every time you stress yourself big time.
Taking those in consideration, it is very important to travel light as you journey towards becoming your own #bestmeever . Unburdening yourself from all the unnecessary stress allows you to go further and grow more in the process.
Close that chapter. It’s over and done with, no matter how that will look like for you. Remember: stressing about it won’t ever bring things back the way you want them to be. There are no rewinds; only flashbacks so instead of dwelling on what could have been, why not just focus on what is, here and now? At least you have the chance to create the changes you want for yourself as of the moment.
2. Your current state
Nothing is permanent in this world, including your current space. So if you’re having difficulties as of the moment, know that it will pass. Same goes when you’re having the best time of your life. Key here is to make the most of the moment. Stop overthinking or you’ll miss out on the magic of the now. Allow yourself to be 100% present as you learn and grow from the experience, no matter how that will look like.
3. Things beyond your control
Being in an unfamiliar setting can be quite scary. And admittedly when things go wrong, as they sometimes will, we find ourselves struggling to regain control. However, in the process, we forget the beauty of surrendering when things beyond our control happen. Stressing over things beyond our control won’t fix the matter on hand; letting things be as we take responsibility over our actions and trust the process, will.
4. Choosing what’s best for you
You know yourself best and you are very much deserving as much as anyone else. Never stress yourself over the reactions of others whenever you choose what will make you genuinely happy, complete and fulfilled. It’s your life; you don’t need the approval of others to live the way you want to.
5. The future
Here’s one thing for certain: no matter how prepared you are, you can’t say for sure how the future will be. While it’s good to invest early on, never deprive yourself to enjoy the present. Depriving yourself of today’s joys won’t ever guarantee a future that’s worth living. Give yourself a chance to just be, today. Because that is what you deserve, here and now. Do all that you can, with all that you have and then let go and move on with your life as of the moment.
I hope this post allows you to unburden yourself from the unnecessary stress in your life as of the moment.
Remember: when you let go, you grow.
And that will always be worth it.
I have always loved writing.
And this is an understatement.
I fondly remember how I discovered my love for writing accidentally when I was tapped to join the school paper way back then in High School as a writer for the Sports Section. Me, in sports. Yes, I know. Haha!
But that particular experience started it all. From writing sports articles, I gradually shifted to writing literary and news pieces for the public to consume.
And during those formative teenage years as well, I finally found writing down my thoughts on my journal as something both liberating and empowering at the comforts of my private space then.
I guess that’s how my love for journaling started. And up to this day, I continue doing that practice that sets my mind, body and spirit free.
Which basically became my inspiration for creating my best-selling #bestmeever book series and recently, the first ever #bestmeever Life Coaching Planner so others can experience the transformative change of journaling when it comes to their overall health and well-being. That is why I made sure that my planner has a bunch of free pages and wide writing spaces for flowing thoughts.
Writing can really do wonders for you. Like seriously.
Your mental health suffers when you keep on thinking about things that rob you of joy and brings you so much stress and anxiety instead. Journaling allows you to do a mental dump — where in you just write down all your thoughts as of the given moment and analyze from there what needs your focus and what needs to go. You don’t have to hold on to each and every thought you have all at once. This frees your mind from the burden of having to process all at the same time, allowing you to relax a little more in the process.
2. Journaling allows you to become clearer with your dreams
Having your own quiet time allows you to inquire deep within and tap on to your greatest aspirations amidst the hustle and bustle of the real world. Journaling about your goals and dreams allow you to visualize them clearly, understand them better and strategize there after. It is when you are alone and immersed in your own thoughts that you come from honesty and vulnerability about things that really excite you and makes your heart skip a beat.
3. Journaling helps you recognize your progress
Writing down your milestones, big or small, allows you to have something to remind you during days that are tougher than others. Perfect for those who want to document their personal development journey, whether it involves getting your desired body or learning a new skill, journaling allows you to celebrate yourself along the way as you fill each entry about your latest adventure, realization or achievement.
4. Journaling helps you manage your emotions better
When overwhelmed by emotions, writing down your thoughts allow you to manage them accordingly This form of release allows you to center all your energy into putting words on feelings which you can’t explain , allowing you to analyze them better and deal with them there after. What I also like about this is that on a personal note, I have something to look back at when all the heightened emotions have settled and I can finally be rational again, enough to come up with the best, non-impulsive decision.
5. Journaling improves your productivity
How different will your life be if you get to learn and discover how to prioritize tasks, manage your time well and deliver results smartly? Well you can experience that and more through journaling as it helps you process your thoughts accordingly while you write them down. This action gives your brain a visual aid, which helps it work more efficiently without the need to dissect abstract concepts.
So have you thought about giving journaling a try yet?
Never too late to do so.
Who knows, you might find the next love of your life soon.
Writing.
You are exactly where you are meant to be.
I always say this to my coachees and mentees so that they will learn to be comfortable in embracing the current space they’re in, no matter how that looks like.
I know, easier said than done.
Much like being compassionate, or changing behaviors you have gotten used to or getting rid of disappointments.
However, much like all those mentioned, it’s still very much possible to enjoy the present and live life fully minus any form of regrets.
While some of our past seemingly painful experiences can bring about anxiety and worries, as it affects you overall wellness and well-being, it’s important to note that those actually provided you with life long lessons you need in your personal journey.
Yes, I am talking about the decisions which you have made before which left you thinking at present if everything was well worth it because it doesn’t seem that way.
Listen, don’t overthink. Everything happens for a reason, good or bad, so that you get to learn and grow from them there after. So stop beating yourself up for decisions that may have led to unexpected results but you know for a fact were all grounded on beautiful, pure and clear intentions.
Sometimes you outgrow people and relationships, not because they’re bad (or you’re bad), but rather simply because, you are no longer in alignment. Even the most familiar person you’ve been with for the longest time can change, in the same way that you can too, but always remember that sharing spaces is a matter of choice. It can’t be one-sided only. So when you feel that you no longer feel happy or inspired and you’ve done everything you can to make the relationship work, let go and be comfortable with it. It’s meant to be that way. And more often than not, it’s for the best. So don’t ever regret your decision of making space for new people in your life who are in alignment with your whole being at present.
2. Pursuing your dreams and passion
I am a firm believer of going for whatever makes your heart skip a beat and whatever inspires you to be your best, no matter what age or status you may have at present. Never feel bad about making that decision to make your dream come true. You deserve to at least give it a try and see where it takes you. You are very much worthy of turning it into reality so hang on, keep the faith, keep going and keep growing. You’ll make it someday.
3. Choosing yourself first
Never feel guilty for putting your needs and wants first at times. Remember: you can’t give what you don’t have so it’s very much important to practice self-care and self-love so you can come from a space of overflow. You matter as much as anyone else so don’t ever see yourself as a mere provider of everyone else’s needs and wants. You’re definitely more than that. And if people can’t accept that, it’s ok. Still allow yourself to do what’s best for you. You deserve that so never feel bad for giving yourself what is due.
4. Starting all over again from scratch
You are never too young or too old to begin living the life you want. It may be difficult at first but know that it gets better if and when you stay committed to yourself and your growth. Never regret your decision of embracing the life you want just because others are making you feel bad about it. They will never understand. And that doesn’t matter. It’s your life and you know what’s best because you’ll be the one taking responsibility after.
5. Investing on yourself and your growth
You are the best investment you can ever make. So never regret spending for whatever it is that will bring you genuine happiness and help you grow in the process. Whether it’s a new laptop, a certification program you’ve been wanting to take or a much needed vacation, go for it for as long as you take responsibility for each decision there after. Life is too short to deprive yourself of the opportunity to live fully as you become your own #bestmeever without any regrets.
I hope after reading this you get to see things in a new light.
You are who you are right now because of the decisions you made for yourself before. Embrace your being.
And it’s such a beautiful experience to discover what still lies ahead as you move forward without any regrets.
I am excited for you.
Things don’t go always as planned.
And that’s a fact.
At the end of the day, there are things far beyond our control: the future, unforeseen situations, emerging trends and even the behavior of people, among others.
And the lost of control over these things brings about “unwanted” change, most of which cause us stress and a whole lot of disappointment.
I know. We all dread that feeling of being helpless and frustrated about everything going on around us which seem overly traumatic at first, so to speak:
A broken relationship.
A missed opportunity.
A competition lost.
An unexpected plot twist.
And so much more.
However, letting our disappointments get the best of us will not only affect our mental health, but rather our over all wellness and well being as well. Imagine: being distracted, losing your motivation and sometimes your appetite, feeling angry and sad, blaming yourself and others, feeling insecure — just some of the things you may experience when you feel overwhelmed by the unexpected experiences you now have on hand.
Awareness is key if you want to be able to process things freely. Do not invalidate whatever it is that you’re feeling as of the moment, no matter how painful it may be. Running away from your own emotions will only worsen your state. What you can do is accept things as they are and try to inquire within and recognize what your emotions are really telling you. Example: not getting the job promotion made you feel sad and disappointed. However, digging deeper, the real reason is because you are fearful about not being able to pay your outstanding loans. Being able to determine the root cause of whatever it is you’re feeling now helps you address it strategically as you move forward.
2. Focus on what’s under your control
This is what we oftentimes forget: we are resisting too much the reality that we have on hand that’s beyond our control. The key here is to eliminate the need to be on top of everything and then just surrender (to) and trust the process. As you let go of the resistance and welcome change openly, you allow yourself to be free from all your disappointments as you focus on what can still be, based on the influence and power you have on the situation on hand. As I always say, let go of anything and everything that’s beyond your control. Life gets easier that way.
3. Intentionally look for the silverlinings
Asking yourself “what is this situation teaching me?” or “what can be good about this?” can do a whole lot of wonders for you. Each time that you focus on the lessons to be learned and the silverl inings, you unburden yourself from the negative emotions you may be feeling, disappointment included. When you change the way you look at things, you change the way you feel towards them.
4. Count your blessings
Difficult times make us forget how blessed we are to begin with. When faced with challenges, try to recall all your wins from the past and acknowledge how far you’ve gone. By mindfully doing so, you allow yourself to shift from a space of disappointment to a space of gratitude, which opens up your life to new opportunities there after.
5. Revalidate yourself from within
When things go wrong as they sometimes will, our self-worth gets hit the most as we begin to question our own skills and value due to the disappointment we are feeling as of the moment. However, we should never let ourselves be defined by external factors. What happens to us doesn’t define us. How we respond to them, does so it’s very important to give ourselves the validation we want and need so that we can rise above the situation and move on and forward accordingly. Never deprive yourself from hearing the affirmations you deserve to hear from the most important person in the room: you.
Feeling disappointed at the onset of things that have gone wrong is ok.
What is not ok is to dwell in that space because truth be told, you deserve so much more.
Nothing is permanent in this world. Including what initially broke your heart.
So take a deep breath, pick yourself up and start all over again.
Because you can.
You’re on your way to becoming your own #bestmeever .
