And that goes both ways.
What I mean is that whatever you focus on, it becomes your reality, good or bad.
That's how powerful your mind is.
Good if you utilize its strength into harnessing your own potential and pushing yourself forward as you become your own #bestmeever .
However, it's a different story altogether if you actually choose to focus on the negative thoughts that you have.
Remember, your self-talk is very powerful and it can definitely affect the way you see and do things in your life in general.
Curating your self-talk is not an easy task so to speak because again, you are very much exposed to a lot of people, things and situations which may cause you to have negative thoughts about yourself. The thing is, you cannot control all of them and stop them from wrecking havoc to your mental and emotional state.
Celebrating yourself then becomes challenging, however, in my opinion, but still very much possible by choice. It's a must actually.
Speaking of choices, what kind of thoughts have you been entertaining on your mind lately? Take this moment to reflect and come from honesty: how are they affecting you in your current space?
Ok, so if you've been entertaining a bunch of not-so-good thoughts lately, know that it's never too late to do away with them.
Here are 5 negative thoughts you should not entertain when they come to you for a visit:
1.) "You are not worthy."
Normally we get this idea when we get rejected, whether by another person or an opportunity on hand. Sadly though, this thought stems from previous experiences while growing up, whether from your parents who minimized your own potentials or opinions of others about yourself and your work which cut through your entire being. However, it is important to know that you define your own worthiness. It's not really based on who you were before, what you've done or what you've failed at. It's about who you choose to be now, how committed you are to yourself and your growth and what you choose to do about your current situation you're in that determines it. Never let what other people said about you nor what the circumstance made you feel, make you forget how deserving you are to still take up space, no matter what.
2.) "You are not good enough."
Failures can definitely dampen our spirits and bruise our egos. But hey, part of growth. What we miss out here is that failure is not an end by itself; it's our choice of whether we let it be or we get inspired to work on ourselves once more based on the rooms for improvement. Come to think of it, isn't it a beautiful thing to know exactly what to anticipate, do differently and turn your failure into an inspiring story there after? Greatness takes time. And a whole lot of patience and effort too. So you may not be good enough...yet. And that's ok. It's only the beginning for you. That will definitely still change.
3.) "You're too much."
Too ambitious? Too animated? Too optimistic? Geez. By who's standards? If it's based on the standards of the society and others, why stress so much? Never let those stop you from becoming the person you're meant to be. You don't need anyone else's approval to be genuine as you embrace your truth. Remember, you will never be too much for the right people you choose to surround yourself with because they will be willing love and support you as you are, and as you grow. For as long as you take responsibility for yourself and your actions, no one can say that you're being too much. Maybe they are just coming from feeling less about themselves each time they see you go for what you truly want and deserve. Who knows? Regardless, don't allow others to put you in a box.
4.) "You're all alone."
It may not seem like it always, but know that somewhere out there, someone believes in you and treats you as his/her inspiration. While sometimes we expect too much from people who we consider as the ones closest to our hearts, it's unfortunate that sometimes, when we least expect it, they are no where to be found when we needed them the most. Take things as they are. And know that this experience allows you to see who really values you. You might be surprised how many others are willing to have a space in your life...they were just waiting for you to open up and notice them. Apart from that, let your faith take the lead. Believing in a higher being, whether that's God for you or someone else, allows you to hold on to hope as you journey through life. Never forget also the fact that you, by choice, can be your own greatest fan. So never leave your own side, regardless of what happens. The Universe has your back. And so do you.
5.) "You'll never make it."
Where you are right now, is exactly where you're meant to be. If you're struggling, it's preparing you for more growth. However, note that struggling does not mean you're failing. And it also does not mean that you'll never make it. Take that to heart. You always have the power to choose what's best for you, as you work on yourself and take one step forward every single day. Don't let the words of others stop you. You'll make it someday, in your own way. You just have to be fully committed to your goals, whatever they may be.
I hope that this article gives you a heads up on the negative thoughts that you have to avoid at all costs.
Mind you, these are the things I have heard others say to me before.
Negative thoughts which I never entertained. Thus never stopped me from becoming the person that I am now.
Yup, you and your success also deserve to be recognized.
Feel uncomfortable about it?
Take this time to assess why sharing your wins with others as you celebrate yourself and your success, makes you cringe or hold back in the process.
Is it the judgement of others? Or the ones that you have on yourself?
I know. When reality kicks you in the balls, it can hurt big time. Haha! Now, just breathe and accept what you need to.
While success shaming can be common in some cultures, ours included sadly, it shouldn't be a reason for you to hold back and keep your wins to yourself.
Let me say this now: sharing your wins to celebrate yourself and your growth does not make you arrogant.
There, I have said it.
I mean, for as long as you are clear with your intentions, meaning you just want to appreciate yourself for a job well done because you love yourself that much, how others may react to you in the process shouldn't matter.
Remember, when people see you as being boastful as you share what truly matters to you, it's probably them projecting their own insecurities and pains on you. And that's not your problem at all so don't even bother wasting your time and energy explaining yourself to them.
At this point, you might think that it takes quite a lot of inner work to become comfortable and secure when celebrating one's self and sharing your wins with others.
Do I even have to stress out the importance of this one? Haha! Seriously though, always remember that much like everyone else, you are very much deserving to acknowledge yourself and your wins, like how you willingly do for others. You matter just as much and you deserve to be seen, heard and felt. Giving yourself what is due was never optional nor dependent on the approval of others to begin with.
2. You motivate yourself to grow more
Becoming more mindful about yourself and your progress inspires you to go further in your own #bestmeever journey, no matter how that may look like for you. Being able to appreciate your growth and letting others know and celebrate with you empowers you to become the person you're meant to be, without judgment or fear.
3. You inspire others
For all you know, somewhere out there, someone looks up to you as an inspiration. So never let that person down. Celebrate yourself and your wins and allow yourself to take up space wherever you are in this world because that empowers others to do the same: to live life fully, and celebrate themselves as they are, authentically and unapologetically. Start that movement now.
4. You discover who genuinely supports you
An eye opener indeed. When you get to acknowledge yourself and your wins comfortably coming from the purest intentions of expressing your self-love and wanting to inspire others too, you will be surprised at times that not everyone will be happy for you, including those whom you expected to have your back. People change. And sometimes, one's success can trigger that, especially if not their own and they want the same for themselves but are not able to achieve it accordingly for whatever reason. As you celebrate yourself and your wins, take note of the people who don't clap for you. It's telling you that you're not on the same space and that you don't have to accommodate them ever in yours. Respect yourself enough to walk away from people who don't acknowledge your worth. It was never about them in the first place. One of the best decisions I have ever made in my life was to realize that I can't please everyone and that their reactions can never define my worth. Thus, I walked away from them with my head up high, and a genuine smile on my face and in my heart, knowing I am left with people who genuinely love and support me. Life goes on.
5. You open up opportunities for yourself
Fact: others won't know how amazing you are if you don't show them. Let your work speak for itself. As you celebrate yourself and your wins, you allow others to take notice of what you're good at and that allows you to align yourself with opportunities present in your network and beyond. Word of mouth is still the best form of marketing so allow people around you to vouch for you accordingly by sharing with them openly about your own progress in your journey, whether personally or professionally. Who knows, the next big break you want and need may just be around the corner, from one of those who has learned about you and your greatness. For me, whenever I shared my wins on social media, I received inquiries for my services and interviews across multimedia platforms, simply because people have taken notice of what I was capable of and the value I can add to their space. I think really it's all about how you share things, hopefully in the most genuine way with the clearest intentions. Take the chance. It will be worth it.