How To Be Truly Happy Without Feeling Guilty

I used to believe this before when I was younger but as I grew up and got to know myself on a deeper level, I began to question this.

Come to think of it: what’s wrong with being genuinely too happy to be living at present?

Like, is there really a limit to how happy a person should be?

And what’s with the curse thing? Why do we have to assume that there’s a mean trade off for just being in a space of joy?

Can you relate to all these?

Take this time to assess yourself: how happy are you allowing yourself to be?

What’s holding you back from being truly happy in your space?

Here’s the thing: most of the time, it’s guilt that’s making you feel uneasy and prevents you from truly being happy.

Guilt which can stem from a number of things:

Your responsibilities.

The opinion of other people.

Your assumptions.

Past experiences.

Anxiety about the future.

And a whole lot more.

And believe me, guilt is something very heavy to carry. And takes up a lot of your head space and heart space too.

So how can you fully live and enjoy life given that?

The key here is to choose to let go of guilt so you can be genuinely happy with who you are and where you’re at.

Here are 5 ways you can be genuinely happy without feeling guilty:

1. Remember that as you are, you are deserving of happiness

It’s not about what you’ve been through, what you’re going through at present or whatever still awaits you that makes you deserving of true happiness. It’s how you choose to see yourself as you love yourself whole and embrace yourself fully. Never let anything or anyone else make you feel guilty for giving yourself the happiness you deserve to begin with. Happiness is your birth right, much like everyone else’s.

2. Take responsibility for yourself, your growth and your actions

Guilt comes in whenever you feel you’re neglecting yourself or others. Choosing to take responsibility for yourself and honoring your commitments will help you enjoy your current space more. It’s all about doing the best that you can with all that you have and being content with whatever your results may be there after, without fear or worries. You’ve done your part, and that will always be more than enough.

3. Let go of the things beyond your control

In life, sometimes we tend to beat ourselves up time and again for things we regret.Here’s the thing though: as you hold on to your regrets, what changes? Did your situation improve? Were you able to undo the past by hurting yourself? Or you just end up feeling stuck in a vicious cycle filled with guilt and a whole lot of what could have been? Maybe this is your sign to just let go. And by letting go does not mean you’re giving up. It only means you’re finally opening yourself to the possibility of moving forward as you focus on what you have control on: your genuine happiness now, wherever you may be at this point in time. Take this to heart: your past can hurt. But you can choose to heal and be happy at present.

4. Stop explaining yourself

No, you don’t need to justify your choices. No, you don’t need to explain yourself always. No, not everyone cares or will be willing to hear you out anyway. And guess what? All these are perfectly ok. You do you. You only feel guilty when you feel you fall short based on the standards of others. But honey, don’t even go that route. Focus on your own standards. They will never understand what your genuine happiness is to begin with. It’s a total experience that’s sacred to you, and yours alone. Keep it that way.

5. Share your happiness

Happiness is best enjoyed when shared with others. For as long as your intentions are clear, there’s nothing wrong with celebrating your wins or sharing your blessings to others, regardless of how the rest of the world might take them. Never compare your situation with that of others. Your journey is different to begin with. And it’s not your fault if others are not thriving as much as you are so don’t feel guilty. Instead, if you are in the position to inspire and help others, by all means, do so. Stop doubting yourself and making yourself feel unworthy of the happiness you are now experiencing. For all you know, you are the exact person someone out there needs to hear and experience to keep going in this lifetime. Don’t stop yourself from being a blessing to others just because of your assumptions and biases.

If there’s one thing I would like you to remember after reading this, it’s the fact that