Credibility. Integrity. Authenticity.
Three core values that I keep closest to my heart.
Seriously though. On a personal note, words can’t express the importance of these three when it comes to one’s personal and professional life, so to speak.
Time and again, I have proven to myself that by being able to uphold my own core values, I managed to open doors that helped me in my journey towards my own #bestmeever .
While the three mentioned have equal importance, oftentimes, I get to be asked how I built and maintained my credibility through the years as I practice coaching. Maybe because among the three, this requires the most work.
To align everyone reading this: having credibility means the quality of being believable and worthy of trust . I believe that in order for one to be able to build credibility, it’s a combination of having desirable behaviors, attitudes and skillsets that will make one trust-worthy.
On that note, since it’s quite challenging to build and easy to lose so to speak, it’s very important for us to protect it as much as we can.
Remember, as they say: trust, once gone, is hard to regain.
Hard truth indeed.
So given that, I want you to take this time to reflect: how have you been building and maintaining your credibility?
Are there certain behaviors and attitudes that compromise yours, whether consciously or unconsciously?
What actions are working against your credibility?
Whatever your answer may be, know that your awareness can be your stepping stone to addressing what needs to be dealt with in terms of building and maintaining your own credibility.
You are as good as your word. So make sure you honor every contract you signed, every promise you’ve given and stand by every word that you said. Broken promises lead to having trust broken which eventually can result in relationships, whether on a personal or professional note, breaking up. So before you have any regrets, try your best to commit only to things you are sure you can manage well. That way, you don’t end up tarnishing your credibility with promises you can’t (and don’t intend to) keep.
2. Being inconsistent
How can you trust someone who’s unpredictable in terms of behavior and actions? Every single day, show up, do your best, keep your word, follow through, and never leave anything or anyone hanging, no matter how difficult situations may be at times. Don’t be afraid to be (and show) your authentic self because as you are, much like everyone else, you deserve to take up space. Drop all the masks, let go of all the pretensions. You don’t need those if you want to build your credibility and your relationships around you.
3. Blaming others always
Taking responsibility for yourself and your actions is sexy. There I said it. Haha! Kidding aside, it’s quite admirable seeing people who are able to be accountable for the decisions and results they have in life. Know that each time you blame others and refuse to take responsibility for your own life, you risk losing the confidence of people in you as you drown in your own victim mentality. Always take to heart that regardless of what happens to you and within you, you have the power of choice to be accountable for your desired results moving forward.
4. Overpromising, Underdelivering
One of the things I repeat time and again to my coach mentees is to always walk the talk. You can’t just rely on your words to do the magic for you. You have to bundle it with the right, intentional actions to be able to deliver accordingly what is needed. While it’s nice to assure people with what you say, make sure the assurance stays when you act on it. That means making sure that you give your best into fulfilling the expectations you have set in others. Otherwise, any misalignment in your words and actions can cause people to doubt you and the validity of your words. And that’s certainly not a space you want to be caught in, right?
5. Communicating vaguely
Sometimes, when you want to play it safe, you say things for the sake of e.g. soon, next year, a lot, before etc. just to satisfy a certain question posted. Here’s the thing: when you really want to commit to something, you will be really specific with the details because you know that you (and the other party) deserve to know accordingly so that expectations and actions can be managed better. So stop using words that are hard to qualify and giving out information that lacks important details to ensure that you don’t lose the attention and trust of those listening to you as you speak. Facts over assumptions always, in all ways.
By now, I do hope that you get to embrace the importance of building and maintaining your credibility.
Always remember that your thoughts and actions should always be in alignment with your true intentions.
Because by ensuring that, you are able to keep your credibility in tact.
And that’s a priceless experience.
