Written by Myke Celis

October 11, 2021

Not every story has a happily ever after.

Especially if you choose to stay in a toxic relationship.

I know. It might seem perfect at first.

Meeting (and being with) your dream guy/gal for the first time can seem like a fairy tale that came true.

However, as time goes by, things change. People change. You change.

And so does the relationship you’re in.

We can only cross our fingers that everything changes for the better.

But what if it does not?

What if the once sweet, oh-so-perfect relationship turns sour and too toxic, what do you do?

Do you hold on and wait?

Or do you take the next flight out?

Don’t get me wrong, there will always be relationships worth fighting for.

However, in my opinion, all parties involved must be willing to work things out.

It can never be just one sided.

And to be candid about it, that’s actually one of the many red flags of being in a toxic relationship.

Allow me to share with you the 5 signs you’re in a toxic relationship and what you can do there after.

  1. You always feel unhappy, guilty, stressed or scared

This. I always believed that any relationship you choose to be in should bring out the best in you and not the worst. Whatever happened to what Disney taught us about having happily ever afters? Keep that in mind. There’s no point of settling in a relationship that makes you feel less of a person.

What you can do: Take a step back. Reflect. Where is this coming from? What are you tolerating? What is not working for you? In the process of doing so, always be true to yourself because your honesty will set you free.

2. You’re not growing

Feeling stuck? Spending more time doubting yourself than working on your dreams? Your relationships must inspire and help you to grow into the best version of yourself. If not, then think again.

What you can do: Reflect. What or who is stopping you? And why are you letting it happen? Analyze in the process: what’s the value of growing at this point in your life that will allow you to commit to it fully? You deserve the growth you envisioned for yourself. Don’t let anything or anyone make you think or feel otherwise.

3.) You don’t have a voice in the relationship

If you feel that you’re always set aside, taken for granted and disrespected time and again, it’s time to assess the relationship you’re in. It takes two to tango and you don’t deserve to just be a back up dancer for the rest of your life.

What you can do: Assert yourself. Be confident and brave enough to speak up. Ask yourself this: what will do you better in the long run, keeping mum about things that don’t sit well with you and tolerating how badly you’re treated or voicing out your concerns and owning your space so you can grow in harmony with the relationship you chose to be in by playing your part? Never let anyone silence your voice and your rights.

4.) You always have excuses

If you always find yourself justifying your decisions or covering up for your partner or the things that aren’t exactly working in your relationship, whether to yourself or to others, then, you might be trying too hard to convince yourself that you’re not in a toxic relationship.

What you can do: Inquire within. Why are you coming up with excuses? What do you want to achieve? What is the reality in front of you that you must accept? Remember, you cannot resolve what you continuously deny yourself of, whether it’s the truth or the opportunity to see things in a different light.

5.) You don’t feel whole

As you are, regardless of who you’re with, you should be whole. If you feel broken still and the concept of completeness, despite the presence of another person in your life, is non-existent, it’s telling you a lot about the kind of relationship you’re in. And yes, it’s toxic.

What you can do: Choose to give yourself time and space to heal and be whole again. Again, you can’t give what you don’t have and if your toxic relationship has drained you, then it’s time to fill your cup again. You don’t need anyone else’s approval to become your own #bestmeever .

After all that’s been said and done now, I hope that you realize that you owe it to yourself to be in a relationship that will allow you to become the person you’re meant to be.

Beyond your tolerations.

And if you need help re-writing your relationship story, whether with yourself or with others involved, don’t lose hope. just message me.

Let’s re-create your own happily ever after.

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