Your words are powerful.
Bundle them with your beliefs and they become unstoppable.
It is important to know though that your success is very much dependent on how you choose the things you say to your self and others and how strongly you believe each one of them.
Yep, your own words can make or break you in the process.
Here’s the thing: sometimes it’s quite hard to spot what isn’t exactly working for us simply because we have gotten used to saying it time and again in the past.
Default mode as they say.
However, default mode isn’t always right.
Take this time to reflect: what statements have you found yourself using time and again when you’re in a seemingly difficult situation?
What results do you get from using them so often?
I think it’s safe to say that more often than not, we tend to gravitate towards using statements that make us feel safe or ones which make us feel in control or comfortable.
But come to think about it now: what about the big opportunities you missed just because you were afraid to take the risk?
My dear, by now you know that success demands you to step outside of your comfort zone as you take that leap of faith towards becoming the person you’re meant to be: your own #bestmeever .
And you’ll only be able to do that by becoming more mindful of the statements you use, whether towards others or to yourself.
Age is but a number. And there’s no deadline when it comes to pursuing one’s dreams. It all depends on how committed you are to it and how willing you are to go the extra mile no matter how long and whatever it takes. Yes. You can change careers at 40. Learn to utilize a new technology at 50. Become an influencer at 60. The possibilities are endless, so why limit them?
2. “I’m very busy.”
Fact: you can always find time for things and people that really matter to you. Work is not life. Same goes for your school stuff. Allow yourself to make time for opportunities that scare you but are very much in alignment with your goals. Drop the excuse and start embracing what is right in front of you simply because, your time is now.
3. “I’m not that type of person.”
It’s easier to say that we are not for something which we feel will make us most uncomfortable. But what if that very thing or situation is the one we need to grow? You’ve probably heard said it yourself: I am not into sports. I don’t like poetry. I am not techie. And the list goes on. However, looking at these now, what do you think is the value in at least trying? Maybe there’s a silver lining there waiting to be discovered only if you allowed yourself to.
4. “It already happened before.”
Well unless it’s a controlled experiment and you do the same things , the same way and the same time over and over again, then you can’t be really sure of the outcome. Never try to predict the future because you can’t. You deserve to take that risk and try once more because who knows, success may just be right around the corner. All you have to do is allow yourself to learn and grow from each experience, good or bad, so that you can use the wisdom gained moving forward.
5. “I can’t.”
You are just one letter away from changing your life for the better. Don’t let your fear of failing, being rejected or judged stop you from at least giving yourself that fighting chance to take up space and chase your dreams. Remember: things may be hard at first but with consistency and commitment, you eventually get to grow and flow in harmony with them.
So which of these statements resonate with you?
At least now with awareness, you are able to curate the things you say to yourself and others.
Choose your words wisely.
Your happiness and success are at stake.
Self talk is very powerful.
And that’s a fact.
How you talk to yourself, how you view and treat yourself becomes your every day reality.
Now my question is: how are your conversations with yourself? Which space are you coming from?
Take this time to reflect: what have you been saying to yourself?
Are you expressing joy? Disappointment? Anger? Shame? Excitement? Guilt?
How do these conversations affect your day to day existence?
Before you raise your eyebrows, know that you’re not going crazy as you engage in self talk.
It’s actually a healthy way to allow your mind to process things better and understand the space you’re coming from.
It also gives you the chance to affirm yourself and ground yourself when needed.
However, you can only reap the beautiful benefits of self-talk if you choose to engage in yours positively.
This means that you exert conscious effort to find what is good in your space and appreciate yourself, no matter what happens around you (or even sometimes within you).
It’s all about coming from a space of love and understanding, knowing that you are doing the best that you can, with all that you are and all that you have and that will always be more than enough reason for you to appreciate yourself more.
Take this to heart: as you speak lovingly to yourself, you allow yourself to maximize your potential and grow to the person you’re meant to be: your own #bestmeever .
And by doing so, you also enable yourself to come from a space of overflow, which makes you not settle for anything less than what you deserve, as you also teach others how to treat you better.
Your self deserves an apology if you’ve been neglecting it for quite sometime now. Whether you got too busy at work that you overlooked your self-care routine or treated it badly because you were having a bad day, be humble enough to say sorry. Mean it. And make sure to make up for it as you commit to try your best not to do what you hurt yourself with again.
2. Thank you, Self
You, reading this now means that you’ve made it this far. And trust me, you couldn’t have done it without trusting (and working on/with) yourself. Every single day, new possibilities await you– be patient with yourself and your growth. Be grateful for what your life has become at the moment. It’s a stepping stone towards what you’re meant to be in this lifetime. Trust me: a whole hearted, genuine self appreciation goes a long way.
3. I am proud of you, Self
When life seems so challenging, we tend to forget how many times we survived far harder situations in the past. Honor yourself. Your battle scars are testament that you are trying (harder even at times) and for that alone you deserve a pat on the back, regardless of the results. Today, count your blessings and realize how blessed you are and how much you’ve grown.
4.I love you, Self
Give yourself the kind of love you freely give to others. Before you cringe — it’s not cheesy or self-serving. It’s actually something your self really deserves: to know that he/she is unconditionally loved for who and what he/she is. As what Ru Paul always says: If you can’t love yourself, how the hell can anybody else? Amen to that!
5. We can do this, Self
If you want to succeed in this life time, be your own greatest fan. Believe in yourself fully and you will be totally unstoppable. Free yourself from the need to be validated by others as you focus on yourself and your own growth. Know that you have everything within you to succeed and it’s all up to you on how you will maximize it. When the going gets tough, inquire within and give yourself that gentle nudge to keep going. Keep believing.
I hope that you get to build a better relationship with yourself after reading this.
Looking forward to seeing you have more loving talks from the heart with the most important person in the room:
your precious self.
