Fact: Giving yourself what is due is one of the greatest forms of self-love.
And that includes the respect, consideration and compassion you willingly give to others.
Ok, I know some of you may raise eyebrows because you’ve gotten used to putting yourself and your needs and wants last, thinking that others will always be more important than you.
Maybe because of how you were raised before.
Or how others judged you when you focused on yourself back then.
Or how the society romanticizes personal sacrifice.
Whatever your reason may be, please take note that you don’t have to embrace them.
Take this to heart: you are very much deserving of the best things in life, as much as everyone else, regardless of what you’ve been through or going through at the moment.
And you don’t deserve to be treated less of a person ever because your value does not depend on anything or anyone else but you.
You call the shots. You know your worth. You know what’s best for you.
Your life might not be perfect now and you might be struggling but hey, you are still amazing in your own way.
You, reading this now, have made it this far.
Celebrate yourself and your progress.
By doing so, you won’t allow yourself to just settle for anything less.
No, you are not a spare tire. You deserve to be chosen first, to be the only choice, most especially when it comes to romantic relationships. You are not meant for meantime flings or when it’s convenient or if a specific need which you can fulfill, arises. You are meant to be honored and loved for who and what you are in your current space and state, and be made a priority.
2. You don’t deserve to put your needs and wants last
You matter as much as everyone else. And you can’t really give what you don’t have. So it’s best and very much ok to fill your own cup first so you can come from a space of overflow. Be kind enough to yourself and acknowledge all the things that matter to you. You are worthy of all those and more. Stop basing your worth on how much you can sacrifice for others because that’s not exactly the case. You weren’t born to always just give way and suffer anyway.
3. You don’t deserve to hold yourself back
You are worth every risk you wish to take. Be brave enough to face your greatest fears and give yourself that fighting chance to go out of your comfort zone and conquer the unknown. Don’t let your self-doubts and opinion of others stop you from becoming the person you’re meant to be. You only have this one chance to make a lasting impact in this lifetime so give yourself just that.
4. You don’t deserve to treat yourself unkindly
Beating yourself up and continuously criticizing yourself won’t allow you to grow in the process. Your negative words can cause you to spiral down and make you doubt yourself even more. Be willing to embrace your own limitations and work around them coming from a space of understanding, humility and love. Shower yourself with affirmations and be your own greatest fan. Even if things are not working out around you and others are not showing their support, you can still choose to motivate and validate yourself as you keep going and growing, no matter what.
5. You don’t deserve to give up on life
Life may be tough but you’re definitely tougher. All of your experiences have strengthened you to reach this point of your life. Never discount your progress and your ability to turn your life around. Know that struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing – it actually means you are trying your best to adapt to the situation on hand and rise above it there after. Take this time to look back and appreciate the numerous times you never thought you will survive but you did. This is just one of those. So keep the faith and hang on. Don’t give up on life, instead, give it all you got.
Being worthy of the best things in life is not based on achievements or status.
It’s based on your own perception and how much you truly love yourself.
Don’t let the ridiculous standards of others make you forget that reality.
At the end of the day, you still deserve to become your own #bestmeever , no matter what.
I always say this to people who are forcing themselves in certain situations:
Don’t come from obligation. Come from inspiration.
Makes sense right?
I mean who wants to be merely forced to do things just because it’s their duty or that responsibility was bestowed upon them?
Whether it’s about being the eldest in the family to take care of all your siblings or the youngest who is expected to just listen and follow,
To being the breadwinner in the family,
to having a senior (or most junior) position at work where expectations and deliverables vary
among others.
Can you relate?
I guess the bigger question is: how much do you really like what you’re expected to do every single day based on the role you portray?
Let’s be honest. It can be quite hard at times.
Simply because as you try to live up to the expectations of others, you oftentimes put yourself and your needs last simply because you feel that you shouldn’t be a priority because work (or your role) calls.
Imagine the stress, the shame, and other negative emotions that are brought about by the pressure to conform and just deliver.
However, truth be told, forcing yourself won’t do you (or the relationship at stake) any good.
You’ll only end up hating yourself and the space you’re in, in the long run.
So the key here is to come from inspiration, as you fill in each responsibility or duty with new meaning to keep you going.
As you challenge yourself by handling multiple tasks all at the same time, you allow yourself to learn and grow in the process. No matter how uncomfortable the situation may seem at first, by embracing it fully minus any form of resistance, you get to make the most of the journey as you become the person you’re meant to be: your own #bestmeever .
2. Take note of the lives you can change
You are perhaps the ray of hope everyone else around you needed at that time. Be that enabler of change. Know that the seeds you plant today may bring about that much needed growth and change you dreamed not only for others, but for yourself as well. It just had to start with you loving what you do.
3. You allow your relationships to bloom
Never underestimate your impact in the lives of others. By willingly helping out, you help build trust and establish stronger bonds with the people around you. This makes the journey easier when you allow them to support you as well to ensure that everyone is on the same page, with the same goal in mind so you never feel alone as you take the lead.
4. You get to recognize your own value
It could have been anyone else, but it was handed on to you. There’s a reason for everything and God does not give you any challenge that you can’t overcome. It’s been given to you because it’s meant to teach you beautiful lessons you need moving forward. You are the chosen one. You are good enough, worthy enough. Know that someday you will look back and realize why everything had to happen that way. Simply because, they were preparing you to become the person you’re meant to be.
5. You don’t end up having regrets
When you don’t like what you’re doing, you tend to complain left and right, oftentimes missing out on the important moments, milestones and lessons along the way. By loving what you do and being inspired by your own responsibilities, you get to maximize the space you’re in and look beyond desired results as you just focus on enjoying the journey while living fully. Don’t let your obligations stop you from making the most of this lifetime.
I hope after reading this, you have unburdened yourself from the responsibilities you may be carrying.
Use them as a springboard instead that will bring you closer to what you’re meant to be:
an amazing inspiration to everyone else around you.
