You can only accept things which you fully understand.
This has always been one of my favorite things to tell my coaching clients.

So true, don’t you think.

I am basically coming from a premise that humans oftentimes, if not always, resist what is unfamiliar.

That is the very reason why change can be so scary at times.

However, we must be ready to embrace change always because as they say, it’s inevitable.

But how can you embrace something which you don’t fully know about or understand?

Oops. there we go again. Questioning things even before we try it. Got you there! Haha!

But yes, that basically shows my point.

Don’t fret though. Tips are just around the corner.

Here are 5 ways to help you understand things better:

  1. Give yourself enough time and space to think

Ok, I know change can be too overwhelming at times. So the key here is to create enough space between you and your thoughts and assumptions (and if possible, the trigger source per se), so you don’t get too caught up in the moment. Never let yourself act out of impulse. Instead, focus on retreating temporarily to your safe space (no matter how that may look like for you), as you gather facts and respond based on them. Yep, respond, not react.

2. Do away with your biases

We have all grown up differently, having sets of experiences which are unique to us. These experiences have formed biases that blur our logic and decision making, as they focus too much on what is familiar, pleasurable or what we think is right. However, biases are more often than not mere assumptions and at times no longer serve their purpose when put in the current context. So best if you ask yourself: what am I merely assuming in this case? What biases of mine are coming into play? Then answer both as honestly as possible.

3. Focus on the value

Like I always say, good or bad, everything that happens to you has a reason. When you want to understand something that you are initially resisting, whether it’s an unfortunate turn of events or an unexpected detour, focus on the value it brings: the lessons, the growth and the new opportunity to start all over again on a clean slate moving forward. Consider yourself lucky to be able to learn and grow along the way as you understand your space better. A powerful question you can ask yourself is: What is this teaching me? Try it.

4. Be open

You can’t control everything. And that’s perfectly fine. Because you shouldn’t. Trust in the grander design of things far beyond your knowledge and power. Know that if you just allow yourself to flow, you actually grow more in the process.

5. Experience it for yourself

As they say, don’t knock it off until you try it. See for yourself. Experiencing things (and people) as they are fully allows you to understand completely as you go face to face with your fears, assumptions and desires moving forward. Give it a chance. Whether you finally say yes or no, you are worth the decision you are making for as long as you’re coming from a space of full understanding.

I hope this helps you understand the space you’re in at the moment.

Know though that whatever that may look like for you at present, it’s ok.

You’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

On your way to your own #bestmeever .

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