How To Deal With A Sudden Loss

You see this has never happened to me before as I am used to getting my client confirmations, inquiries, brand collaborations, invitations and a whole lot more flood my email on a daily basis. And yes, including my online shopping bill. Haha!

So I was taken aback when I opened my mail and found it to be so at peace. Haha!

“Oh well, I could use some time off from reading all my emails.” And I didn’t give it much thought until I got a message on LinkedIn:

“We sent the updated certificate on Friday but I just got an delivery error notification just now.

Sending it to you here just in case. .”

Friday. I checked my email on this Monday. WTF.

My heart started racing and I instinctively checked on my domain hosting services for my bestmeever.com email.

OMG. It was no where to be found.

And then I saw one email that said my payment lapsed and they had to park my domain.

I was like, huh? My credit card was active and I had a back up which was also working.

How can that happen?

Even more questions popped into my head when I tried searching for my domain and found out it was already “taken”. What?! How can that be?

Here’s the catch: they want me to avail of a domain broker service worth P4500+ to get my domain back for a minimum of $1,000 USD.

I. Just. Can’t.

It was so surreal. I was admittedly caught by surprise that suddenly, my domain bestmeever.com for 5 years was no longer in my possession.

But here’s the wilder scenario, as my mind tried to grasp the impact of this sudden loss:

Two brand collaboration invites bounced;

Multiple client schedules for the week not registered;

Updates for Coach Awards and Global Gurus , competitions I was nominated in were not received;

Tracking for my online purchases gone.

…and the list goes on.

Gosh.

But then again, I realized, things like this happen in real life, in other aspects.

Take this time to reflect: has it happened to you before?

…got fired at work?

…missed out on an important meeting?

….forgot the password to your account which got locked?

…had something stolen from you?

How did you deal with it?

Whatever your response then, it’s ok. You still have time to tweak it as you read this.

Yup, it was a learning experience for me yesterday, and until now as I troubleshoot and write this.

Sharing with you the 5 ways you can deal with a sudden loss:

1. Don’t panic

I know. It can be so stressful. But think about this: panicking won’t help you in the process. In fact, making impulsive decisions can wreck even more havoc in the long run. The key here is to pause and ground yourself so that you can think of a logical situation when all your emotions have stabilized. Taking deep breaths can do wonders for you.

2. Assess the situation carefully

After recognizing your emotions and letting them settle, try to see the situation on hand objectively. What is the implication? What can you be missing out? What must you consider? What can be good about this? I had to answer all those 4 when I was trying to pacify myself yesterday and it gave me enough leverage to come up with what will work best for me at that given point in time.

3. Let go of anything beyond your control

This is a golden rule. I mean why continuously stress over things (and people) you have no control of? Stressing over them won’t change a thing and it won’t definitely guarantee you the desired outcome you want. Remember: you spend precious energy as you try to control everything. What you can do is utilize the same amount of energy and effort in letting go and focusing on what you can still influence as of the moment so that you don’t go around in circles.

4. Seek help

You are never alone and it’s ok to seek for help because that’s a sign of strength. Give yourself the assistance you deserve by acknowledging the fact that sometimes you can’t do things on your own. I immediately reached out to my web developer and to a couple of techie people I know for help and the guidance they gave me allowed me to formulate my options moving forward.

5. Check on your priorities

Based on your assessment of the situation, what should you focus on first? Again, it’s imperative to let go of all the distractions so that you can create a strategic pathway towards the soundest solution you need and want for yourself. Consider the help you have received and know that at the end of the day, you can only do so much so working on resolving one thing at a time is best. In my case, my priority was to inform everyone affected by the loss of my email and give them an alternative email where they can reach me instead. I am lucky though that people I reached out too were kind enough to understand the problem and were willing to make necessary adjustments.

You might be curious about my own resolution. Well, what I did was get myself a new domain hosting and service. You can now reach me at myke@bestmeever.net 🙂

I can definitely say that after 5 years, I am at peace with letting go of my previous domain, bestmeever.com. I will always be grateful for it served its purpose well and has been instrumental in receiving numerous good news and blessings through the years. Thank you.