Fact: Giving yourself what is due is one of the greatest forms of self-love.
And that includes the respect, consideration and compassion you willingly give to others.
Ok, I know some of you may raise eyebrows because you’ve gotten used to putting yourself and your needs and wants last, thinking that others will always be more important than you.
Maybe because of how you were raised before.
Or how others judged you when you focused on yourself back then.
Or how the society romanticizes personal sacrifice.
Whatever your reason may be, please take note that you don’t have to embrace them.
Take this to heart: you are very much deserving of the best things in life, as much as everyone else, regardless of what you’ve been through or going through at the moment.
And you don’t deserve to be treated less of a person ever because your value does not depend on anything or anyone else but you.
You call the shots. You know your worth. You know what’s best for you.
Your life might not be perfect now and you might be struggling but hey, you are still amazing in your own way.
You, reading this now, have made it this far.
Celebrate yourself and your progress.
By doing so, you won’t allow yourself to just settle for anything less.
No, you are not a spare tire. You deserve to be chosen first, to be the only choice, most especially when it comes to romantic relationships. You are not meant for meantime flings or when it’s convenient or if a specific need which you can fulfill, arises. You are meant to be honored and loved for who and what you are in your current space and state, and be made a priority.
2. You don’t deserve to put your needs and wants last
You matter as much as everyone else. And you can’t really give what you don’t have. So it’s best and very much ok to fill your own cup first so you can come from a space of overflow. Be kind enough to yourself and acknowledge all the things that matter to you. You are worthy of all those and more. Stop basing your worth on how much you can sacrifice for others because that’s not exactly the case. You weren’t born to always just give way and suffer anyway.
3. You don’t deserve to hold yourself back
You are worth every risk you wish to take. Be brave enough to face your greatest fears and give yourself that fighting chance to go out of your comfort zone and conquer the unknown. Don’t let your self-doubts and opinion of others stop you from becoming the person you’re meant to be. You only have this one chance to make a lasting impact in this lifetime so give yourself just that.
4. You don’t deserve to treat yourself unkindly
Beating yourself up and continuously criticizing yourself won’t allow you to grow in the process. Your negative words can cause you to spiral down and make you doubt yourself even more. Be willing to embrace your own limitations and work around them coming from a space of understanding, humility and love. Shower yourself with affirmations and be your own greatest fan. Even if things are not working out around you and others are not showing their support, you can still choose to motivate and validate yourself as you keep going and growing, no matter what.
5. You don’t deserve to give up on life
Life may be tough but you’re definitely tougher. All of your experiences have strengthened you to reach this point of your life. Never discount your progress and your ability to turn your life around. Know that struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing – it actually means you are trying your best to adapt to the situation on hand and rise above it there after. Take this time to look back and appreciate the numerous times you never thought you will survive but you did. This is just one of those. So keep the faith and hang on. Don’t give up on life, instead, give it all you got.
Being worthy of the best things in life is not based on achievements or status.
It’s based on your own perception and how much you truly love yourself.
Don’t let the ridiculous standards of others make you forget that reality.
At the end of the day, you still deserve to become your own #bestmeever , no matter what.
