5 Ways You Are Being Unfair To Yourself

Please. Don’t ever limit yourself when it comes to giving yourself what is due:

Unconditional love. Understanding. Compassion. Kindness. Appreciation.

The question is: when was the last time you did just that?

Ok, if it’s been a while, know that you aren’t exactly alone.

You see sometimes, when life gets hard, we forget how important it is to give ourselves the kind of consideration and love we willingly give to others who matter to us.

However, know that no matter what you’ve been through or going through at the moment, those really don’t determine your worthiness or define your value.

You know what’s best for you…so give yourself just that.

This line encapsulates it fully:

It’s ok to consider your own needs and wants too.

Because you matter just as much as everyone else.

Given that, it’s very important to stop treating yourself unfairly so that you get to grow in harmony with your own #bestmeever .

Allow me to share with you the 5 ways you’re being unfair to yourself, whether consciously or unconsciously, so you can address them accordingly:

1. Feeling guilty about your own “ME Time”

Heres the thing: you weren’t born to just to baby sit for everyone else around. You weren’t born just to work your ass off to pay the bills. You deserve to have time for yourself and spend it no matter how you want to, guilt-free. You don’t need to explain to others why you took that long vacation or when you decided to spend the weekend reading books in your bedroom. You have the right. And you deserve it.

2. Minimizing your own progress

Give credit to where it is due — to yourself, included. Reflect quickly: when was the last time you honored your progress? Don’t ever attach your happiness and fulfillment to the achievement of your end goal. You don’t have to postpone your appreciation for yourself until then. You can do it here and now, simply because if you looked back, you would realize how far you’ve gone. Remember: choosing to start a new journey is an achievement by itself. Continue celebrating yourself to stay inspired along the way.

3. Choosing to always play it safe

You’ve heard it time and again: growth is outside your comfort zone. That essentially means that you should be willing to take risks in order for you to be the person that you want to be. Holding back won’t get you anywhere in this life time. Give yourself that fighting chance to go for what you truly want: whether it’s all about starting a new career, learning a new skill in a new environment or speaking up and allowing yourself to take up space as you are. It may be really uncomfortable at first but the rewards are life changing.

4. Settling in unhappy, stagnant relationships

Life is too short to stay in any relationship that does not help you grow or make you happy. If you find yourself trying to justify the toxic relationship you have just because you’ve been in it for a long time, then this is your sign to reflect and realize that by staying, you aren’t exactly changing it. You could have done that a long time ago, but haven’t. There I said it. Maybe now it’s time for you to be honest with yourself and give yourself what you deserve: the chance to communicate openly with the person you’re in a relationship with and discuss how both of you would want to move forward, based on what will work best for your relationship and yourselves too. Sweeping issues under the rug don’t necessarily resolve them, you know.

5. Invalidating your emotions

Don’t be scared to be honest about how you feel. It’s the only way you can process them fully. Do away with shame or self-judgment. You deserve to let yourself be and feel what must be felt so that you can discover the lessons each one is telling you. Know that every emotion, good or bad, helps you understand yourself on a deeper level, only if you let them unfold fully without any form of resistance. It’s ok to feel the way you do. How you deal with it moving forward given that, matters more.

Let me leave you with this thought for reflection: