Growth is a matter of choice.
And that’s a fact.
It’s all about making the most of each and every experience that you have and turning them into stepping stones to help you reach your biggest goals.
Though quite challenging at times, especially when life throws you a curve ball and knocks you off track.
However, what I have realized based on actual experience, is that stressing over things beyond my control or complaining over not so good results, won’t really change a thing.
Both bring my own growth to a stand still.
Take this time to quickly reflect:
What did you stress about recently?
How do you think that hindered your growth?
Was it about a missed opportunity?
A personal argument?
Hey, before we even continue because this list can go on for sure, please allow yourself to breathe.
It’s ok. It’s not the end of the world.
And you reading this is a testament of just that.
You still have a chance to make things right and grow in the process.
It’s not just about going with the flow at all times. You also have to be very much aware and clear of where you want to go, what you want to achieve and how you intend to make things happen for you. Don’t ever view planning as a waste of time. It’s always best that you come prepared so regardless of the results you may have there after, at least you gave yourself a fighting chance. Take pictures. List them down. Draw charts. Brainstorm with others. Do what works for you in order for you to fully visually and embrace your journey towards growth. Remember though: all these will only work if you stay committed to yourself and your goals, no matter what happens.
2. Listen intentionally without judgments.
Truth be told, you actually learn a lot when you listen. Be humble enough to accept the fact that you don’t know everything and that everyone you meet has an important message to share to you. Do away with your biases and come from a space of openness as you listen for what you need to hear, and not be drowned by what you want for validation. Shameless plug: check out my newly launched #BestMeEver Podcast for things you need to hear in order for you to reflect and recalibrate fully and become your own #bestmeever .
3. Ask questions. Even uncomfortable ones if relevant.
The only way you will know is when you ask. Never hold back when asking questions. For as long as your intentions are clear and you ask them respectfully, it’s ok. My profession as a coach entails me to ask questions that may trigger others but that’s part of my job: to bring awareness and understanding of one’s space through powerful questions. Who knows? The growth you may be looking for is just an answer away.
4. Explore more.
Don’t be afraid to take risks. Outside of your comfort zone is where true growth lies. Be curious. Be brave. Allow your beautiful child-like curiosity to come to surface. You will be surprised as to what awaits you on the other side of the fence. And yes, at times, the grass is greener there, with tall, vibrant trees to match.
5. Surround yourself with people who inspire you.
You become the 5 people you spend most of your time with so make sure you choose the best ones for you. Cut off any toxic relationship and focus on nurturing ones that genuinely support your growth and challenges you to become better in the process. Seek a mentor among your inner circle and learn openly from each and everyone you choose to surround yourself with. At the end of the day though, make sure that you guys are all in alignment as to what you want to achieve and how you can help each other do just that.
The journey towards growth is never easy but will always be worth it.
One step at a time. One day at a time.
And you will always be, regardless of how big or small your progress is, more than enough.
