5 Things You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed Of

Seriously. Having a highly curated life on social media does not exactly equate to enjoying life as is, in general.

But come to think of it: why do people tend to hide the other (note my conscious decision to use that neutral word) of life?

What is it about the less than perfect moments that make us want to hide them?

What misconceptions do you have about your own?

Take this time to reflect:

Which part of your life are you hiding from the rest of the world due to shame?

A failure?

Unguarded moments caught on cam?

Criticisms from others?

Your next chapter?

What makes you want to bury them into oblivion?

I know that you may have your own reasons for keeping them invisible to the prying eyes of everyone around you but hey, I just want you to know this:

It’s ok to share those less than perfect, less than happy moments with the rest of the world.

It doesn’t make you less of a person each time you talk about what others may be dreading to discuss.

In fact, by doing so, you become a beacon of hope and strength for all those who need to overcome their own shame.

On that note, allow me to share with you the 5 things you should not be ashamed about:

1. Your past

How many times have you heard me say: “Your past should not define you.”? There, I said it again. But hey it’s true. Think about this: you can’t exactly turn back time more so undo what has been done. You can only focus on learning from the experience. That means, whatever you’ve been through before, no matter how tough life was, it’s ok. Show off your battle scars. They are beautiful reminders that you’ve made it this far in this life time, a privilege which not everyone gets to enjoy because they let their past hold them back.

2. Your present

Where you are right now at this point in your life is only temporary. So why be ashamed of it? It’s merely a pitstop; just a tiny spec in your life’s journey ahead. Wouldn’t it be inspiring for others to see how you decided to work on yourself at present to eventually become the person you’re meant to be: your own #bestmeever ? Know that your life at present does not have to be free from flaws to be meaningful and rewarding. What is important to remember here is that you were brave enough to start and committed enough to continue on with your journey.

3. Your relationships

Never hide the people you truly matter to you. Whether it’s a family member, a dear friend or a special someone, be proud of the relationship you have. That shows how much value you put in the relationship by acknowledging it fully. Ok, you don’t have to go overboard about posting sweet pics or writing mushy stuff every now and then; what I am saying is that never deny people in your life, regardless of how others may respond to your admittance. It’s ok though. You are not here to please anyone nor allow anyone to dictate whom you could share spaces with.

4. Your struggles

It’s normal to have ups and downs in life. Take that to heart please. Never be ashamed of your struggles. It’s ok to be vulnerable and admit that you need help. It actually shows how strong you are and how mindfully aware you are of your own needs and wants. At the end of the day, too much pride won’t help resolve your challenges on hand so best if you acknowledge your own difficulties and allow yourself to receive the support you need as you inspire others to be comfortable enough to ask for help too. No man is an island and nobody’s perfect so just stay true and give yourself what is due.

5. Your goals and dreams

No matter how big they may be, you are very much worthy of your own goals and dreams. If you truly want to manifest them to reality, speak with pride about them and feel as if they already came true. Don’t ever minimize them or shrink yourself just to fit in or to avoid being judged by others. It will never be worth each time you shortchange yourself. You have what it takes to succeed and no matter how ambitious you may seem, you have nothing to explain to others who aren’t even part of your dreams.