Fact: Not yet does not mean never.
Things will happen when it’s time.
So why do we stress over delays too much?
Why do we let ourselves suffer in the process of waiting for the best that’s yet to come?
Why do we always equate delays with something that can hold us back from achieving our dreams.
Truth be told though, delays can be blessings in disguise.
We just have to look beyond what’s not yet happening as of the moment.
And see the beauty that lies behind it.
Sounds easier said than done right?
I feel you. I know how agonizing it is to wait endlessly for that once in a life time opportunity, that trip you planned for so long, that promotion you’ve always wanted, the love of your life, among others.
Simply because we always want to be in control of our lives.
And even on things that are well beyond our sphere of influence.
Don’t ever deny the presence of delays in your life. Remember, you can’t control everything. Resisting it and seeing delays as something detrimental to your growth will only add up to more stress that you have. So learn to be comfortable with it and know that everything happens for a reason. Believe in the concept of perfect timing.
2. Consider it as a learning experience
I always say, good or bad, any experience can teach you valuable lessons you need to thrive in your life there after. Be intentional in seeking what you need to know so that you can eventually become the person you’re meant to be. Consider these questions: what is making me impatient? What fears do I have? What can I do differently to improve the waiting time? Continue to discover those beautiful answers that you need in your current space.
3. Maximize the waiting time
While delays can sometimes be inevitable, you can always choose to make your waiting time more bearable. Instead of focusing on what’s not yet happening, allow yourself to explore on what else you can do so that you can remain happily productive as you wait. Do another pending assignment, catch on that Netflix series you missed, bond with family and friends…life goes on even if some aspects of it may have been paused as of the moment.
4. Stop overthinking
Like seriously. Formulating 101 negative narratives won’t speed up the process. Delays happen. That’s it. You don’t have to create justifications based on assumptions that won’t help at present. Remember, the goal is for you to be able to navigate through delays beautifully, not find faults.
5. Visualize desired outcome
If you spend the same amount of time and energy you used in ranting about delays and everything else that went wrong with it , in visualizing the ideal results you want, you are able to save yourself from the unnecessary stress. Negative thoughts won’t give you positive results, so might as well become intentional in focusing on your desired outcome to ensure that you are in a healthy space.
So there. I hope these tips help you deal with delays better.
Always remember, good things take time.
So take the time as you wait, to be good to yourself too.
