And come to think of it, it’s such a beautiful experience to be able to reach this age. I mean growing up, I never had an idea how it would look and feel like. But hey, here I am now, blowing my candle and adding yet another year to my life.
While others become worried as they age, I am actually having a grand time embracing the person that I am becoming: my own #bestmeever . Yes, I truly believe that the best is yet to come.
Thinking about it now, it was definitely a one-of-a-kind roller coaster ride towards becoming the person I am meant to be. I lost count of the number of ups and downs, the twists and turns and everything that happened in between. But hey, I am genuinely grateful for all of them because they all happened for a reason, and the core being is that all those were essential to my learning and growth.
Coming from honesty and humility, I am just so happy that at this point in time, I no longer feel anxious about what the future may bring. There’s freedom in trusting myself and the process as I let myself (and things) be.
I have to say, experience indeed is the best teacher. I wouldn’t be a credible coach now if I haven’t experienced all those in the past 41 years. And today, I would like to share with you the 41 life lessons I learned which molded me into the person that I am now.
- You can always love yourself more by choice, and it’s ok.
- Whatever you tolerate will eventually take its toll on you. So don’t if it doesn’t sit well with you.
- Never keep things to yourself. Speak up. Your personal freedom is more important than the reactions of others.
- You don’t have much time but you can always choose to make the most of what you have.
- To be different is a gift. Cherish it. Own it.
- You can be successful and unhappy or struggling yet happy. You have the choice to turn both around.
- What you truly deserve will always be better than what you initially wanted. Trust in God’s plan.
- Every pain has a purpose. You just have to stop resisting and start seeing things beyond the hardships,
- Your willingness to invest on yourself is commensurate to your willingness to grow. It’s a question of how much are you worth it?
- You don’t ever need to justify the wring doings of others. Allow yourself to feel hurt and acknowledge that space. You don;t have to deny that because you want to save a relationship.
- You can be independent, empowered and genuinely happy if you allow yourself to live outside of social and personal expectations.
- Don’t minimize your goals based on your experience. Create goals based on what you really want and get enough experience and enlightenment to work on them no matter how big they may seem at first.
- There’s more to life than just working to pay the bills.
- A seemingly bad ending can actually be a prelude to a beautiful beginning.
- If you’re not happy, then that’s not how the story ends yet.
- Learn to normalize calling people as colleagues, acquaintances or whatever fits them if they’re not really your friends.
- Your happily ever after is not based on a certain age, achievement or person. It’s based on what you truly feel within regardless of what you have or don’t have.
- Commitment requires 100%. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
- Love comes unexpectedly. It pays off to always be ready.
- There is much value in pausing, stopping and starting all over again. They shouldn’t be perceived as negative delays.
- You are worth every risk you are willing to take.
- For as long as you’re happy and healthy, you can become wealthy.
- Feeling stuck at times can actually be a matter of choice.
- Your credibility and integrity are priceless. So don’t act cheap.
- Don;t sweat about things that won’t matter in 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days, 5 months or 5 years.
- It’s ok to love people from afar.
- Love is brave and proud. If it’s not, then that’s not love.
- There’s no limit as to how many times you want to start all over again and reinvent yourself, for as long as you are clear with your goals and objectives.
- You can’t be everything that the world expects you to be but you can always be your best and that’s more than enough.
- Don’t let anyone or anything question your genuine happiness. You know better.
- Struggling at times makes the whole journey even more rewarding.
- Don’t let the people who have hurt you turn you into a person that you are not.
- You are whole as is. Everyone who comes into your life is just a bonus.
- Acknowledging your feelings and being truly honest with yourself are superpowers.
- Everyone needs a coach. But there is a specific coach for someone.
- It’s ok to cut ties. You don’t have to stay for the sake of old times, because if things were still the same, then cutting them off wouldn’t be an option in the first place. People change. Feelings too. So can you.
- You don’t ever have to pressure yourself to conform just to be liked. You can be a disruptor and be loved.
- Taking care of yourself, your looks, your mental health and well-being is never optional or dependent on anything or anyone else.
- It’s ok to try and fail than to have a bunch of what if’s and what could have been’s.
- You can never be really ready but you can always choose to be brave enough now to at least try.
- Life goes on. It always does. So can you.
So there you go! I hope these life lessons resonate with you.
I look forward to learning more this year.