Written by Myke Celis

July 5, 2022

Fact: You can’t know everything all at once.

And there will be times when even what you thought you knew well, won’t exactly be the case.

That’s the irony of it all.

And when this happens, we feel very helpless since we are used to always being in control, ensuring things happen as planned.

We end up feeling stressed, unhappy and unmotivated simply because we thought we had everything all figured out.

Let me remind you this harsh truth: we don’t.

In fact there are alot of things that we are probably clueless about yet we try so hard to make sense of everything:

We don’t know what others are going through, sometimes, ourselves included, yet we oftentimes judge them (and ourselves based on what we see and what we feel alone, and not based on what’s truly within anchored on facts.

We don’t know what the future has in store for us, yet we anxiously anticipate it and try to control it as much as we can.

We don’t know when our healing will happen, yet we assume that it will take forever and it’s ok to just wallow in our own misery and drive people away with our pain.

We don’t know how much time we have left yet we act as if tomorrow’s guaranteed and we can still put off relationships, goals, starting over among others.

We don’t know what we truly deserve because we refused to take risks because we fear of getting hurt, not realizing that we are hurting ourselves and others more in the process of holding back and not being true to ourselves.

We don’t know that we matter so much to other people outside of those who have taken us for granted that we forget as we dwell on what’s lost rather than what we can gain from exploring and being with others who make us feel valued.

We don’t know that somewhere out there, someone looks up to us despite us feeling so discontented and unhappy at times in our current space, thinking that we lack so much. and we let that define us.

We don’t know what love truly is because we base it on our previous experiences and associate it with a lot of what could have beens rather than focusing on what (and who) is here and now and what can still be when we give it a chance, despite its being unexpected and unconventional. We know a lot of excuses and we try to justify them left and right, not knowing that having all those will only leave us hurting and wondering more in the long run.

We don’t know…that we don’t know the answers to all these.

And we will never know if we don’t make that choice.

To see things differently and let ourselves be.

We will know if we listen not to our ego and not focus on our pains.

We will know once we step out of our comfort zone and be comfortable with just knowing and being.

We will know if and when we decide to take the risk coming from a space of love and purpose as we breakdown walls of pains and doubts.

We will know once we have accepted what we don’t know.

And that’s a very humbling, yet empowering experience.

Because that’s part of becoming our own #bestmeever .

I trust that by now, you know better.

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