I tend to repeat that time and again to help people who are suffering from low-esteem and doubting their self-worth.
And more often than not, it’s because these people have redefined themselves with things, situations and associations, which don’t really serve them well.
What is important to know now is that any description you put after the word “I AM” is very powerful so be careful what you affirm as your personal truth.
Yep, those things, can actually become your reality if you truly embrace them and believe them as is.
Such is the case with people who subscribe so much to the standards of others that they tend to measure their self worth based on the approval of others, which truth be told, should not be the case at all. Feeling guilty now? Kidding.
So allow me to share with you the 5 things that don’t define your self worth:
- Your job
Yes my dear. Work is not life. You were not born to just earn money to pay the bills. You are meant to enjoy life to the fullest, with all that you are and everything that you allow yourself to become eventually. Your job title, your industry, your expertise…all those won’t really matter in the long run. They don’t make you better than the rest of the world. Because really, you’re more than what you do.
2. Your relationships
It’s not about who you know or who you’re with that determines your self-worth: it’s about who you choose to become alongside people who share your space. So do away with name dropping or banking on associations. Choose to be your own person as you create a name for yourself. You deserve to own your space and identity. Never borrow from anyone else.
3. Your achievements
While your achievements can take you further in life, your attitude can bring you closer to the hearts of those around you. You are more than the medals, the recognitions and success you have attained. And you should be comfortable with your own skin even if you haven’t reached your full potential just yet. You have your own journey towards your own #bestmeever , and it’s definitely special in it’s own way. So celebrate yourself as you are, with all that you have. You deserve it.
4. Your past
It’s over and done with. So why still hold on to it? You are not your mistakes, your failures, your trauma, your losses…and everything else that’s part of your past. You are what you choose to do at present as you become the person you’re meant to be: genuinely happy and free from yesterday’s chapters. Just learn the lessons and do away with the associated definition of who and what you were. That’s not you now, anyway.
5. Your money in your bank account
Fact: some of the happiest people I know have little money and the saddest ones are those who have so much. So don’t ever let money define your self worth. It’s not about how much money you have, burt rather, how much you’ve given in terms of time, effort and love that will linger in the minds of the people around you. So make your presence count instead because it’s the greatest gift you can give. Just my two cents worth.
I’d like to end this post with this reminder: